Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

February 20, 2024

Taking Care of Your Mental Health

Mental health, or mental wellness, is essential to your overall health and quality of life. It affects how we think, feel, act, make choices, and relate to others. Managing social isolation, loneliness, stress, depression, and mood through medical and self-care is key to healthy aging.

Social isolation and loneliness

As people age, changes such as hearing and vision loss, memory loss, disability, trouble getting around, and the loss of family and friends can make it difficult to maintain social connections. This makes older adults more likely to be socially isolated or to feel lonely. Although they sound similar, social isolation and loneliness are different. Loneliness is the distressing feeling of being alone or separated, while social isolation is the lack of social contacts and having few people to interact with regularly.

Studies show that older adults who are socially isolated or feel lonely are at higher risk for heart disease, depression, and cognitive decline. A 2021 study of more than 11,000 adults older than age 70 found that loneliness was associated with a greater risk of heart disease. Another study in 2022, found that socially isolated older adults experienced more chronic lung conditions and depressive symptoms compared to older adults with social support. Feeling lonely can also impact memory. In 2022, a study of more than 8,000 adults older than 65 found that loneliness was linked to faster cognitive decline.

Research also shows that being socially active can benefit older adults. In a similar study of more than 3,000 older adults found that making new social contacts was associated with improved self-reported physical and psychological well-being. Being social may also help you reach your exercise goals. This same study found that older adults who had regular contact with friends and family were more physically active than those who did not.

What can you do?

Staying connected with others may help boost your mood and improve your overall well-being. Stay in touch with family and friends in person or over the phone. Scheduling time each day to connect with others can help you maintain connections. Meet new people by taking a class to learn something new or hone a skill you already have.

Stress

Stress as we all know  is a natural part of life and comes in many forms. Sometimes stress arises from difficult events or circumstances. Positive changes, like the birth of a grandchild or a promotion, can cause stress too. Research shows that constant stress can change in one’s brain and affects memory, and increase the risk of developing Alzheimer’s or related dementias.

Older adults are at particular risk for stress and stress-related problems. In this same 2019 study, examined how levels of the stress hormone cortisol change over time. Researchers have found that cortisol levels in a person’s body increase steadily after middle-age, and that this age-related increase in stress may drive changes in the brain. Finding ways to lower stress and increase emotional stability may support healthy aging. In analyzing the data f from the Baltimore Longitudinal Study of Aging, scientists followed 2,000 participants for more than five decades, monitoring their mood and health. The data reveal that individuals who were emotionally stable lived on average three years longer than those who had a tendency toward being in a negative or anxious emotional state. Long-term stress also may contribute to or worsen a range of health problems, including digestive disorders, headaches, and sleep disorders.

How can you manage tress?

You can help manage stress with meditation techniques, physical activity, and by actively participating activities that you enjoy. Keeping a journal may also help you identify and challenge negative and unhelpful thoughts. Reach out to friends and family who can help you cope in a positive way.

Depression and overall mood

Although depression is common in older adults, it can be difficult to recognize. For some older adults with depression, sadness is not their main symptom. Instead, they might feel numb or uninterested in activities and may not be as willing to talk about their feelings. Depression not only affects mental health, but also physical health. A review article funded by the National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute summarizes hundreds of studies from around the world showing that depression increases risk of heart disease and metabolic disorders.

Research has also shown that recurrent depression is a risk factor for dementia. In a study of more than 1,000 older adults, scientists found a relationship between the number of depressive episodes and increased risk of developing Alzheimer’s.

Depression, even when severe, can be treated. As soon as you begin noticing signs, it’s important to get evaluated by a health care professional. In addition to deep sadness or numbness, lack of sleep and loss of appetite are also common symptoms of depression in older adults. If you think you or a loved one may have depression, start by making an appointment to see your doctor or health care provider. 

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

January 17, 2024

Winter Tips for Seniors

Winter months in Chicago often provide some of the most beautiful outdoor scenes, but winter is also unpredictable. Winter storms can occur quickly and without warning, causing power outages, stranding people in their homes or cars, and creating unsafe driving and walking conditions. Some older adults are particularly vulnerable during severe winter weather and should take extra precautions to be prepared for whatever Mother Nature conjures up.

Here are some tips to help older adults stay safe in winter weather:

·  Have a 3-day supply of non-perishable food and water (one gallon per person per day). Don’t forget supplies for your pet and any medications you might be taking.

·  Know where to go for information about local weather emergencies, road or business closings (TV, radio).

·  Know the difference between winter storm watches and warnings.

·  Update phone numbers for local emergency officials, as well as nearby family, friends and neighbors. Remember to stay in contact with family during severe winter weather.

·  If you have home health care service, plan ahead with your agency for emergency procedures.

·  Have your car winterized before the first snow fall.

·  Put an ice scraper in your car. Also check your wipers and wiper fluid. You may want to have an extra gallon of cold weather formula wiper fluid on hand in your car or garage.

·  Check appliances, furnaces, portable heaters and fireplaces before using them for the first time. Keep all heat sources and vents clear of clutter. Never leave portable heaters unattended.

·  Keep fire extinguishers on hand and make sure everyone knows how to use them.

·  Check batteries in portable radios, flashlights, smoke alarms and carbon monoxide detectors. Make sure smoke alarms and carbon monoxide detectors are installed and working on every floor in your home.

·  With winter comes shorter, darker days. Consider putting entry or garage lights on a timer or light sensor so they come on as soon as it gets dark each day. Inexpensive adapters are easy to install and can be purchased from your local home center. Keep your home well lit by installing the maximum wattage bulbs allowed for your indoor light fixtures. Keep extra light bulbs on hand.Stay indoors during severe winter weather. If you do go out, dress warm and tell someone where you are going and when you’ll be back.

·  Make sure the path to your door, garage and mailbox are shoveled and free of debris. If possible, have someone shovel for you.

·  Use salt to melt down icy sidewalks and steps or cover the ice with something gritty or non-slippery (sand, cat litter). Ideally you should sprinkle salt before or immediately after a storm.

·  Allow yourself plenty of time to get where you need to go in winter weather. Taking your time will reduce your risk of falling, especially if you use an assistive walking device.

·  Walk like a penguin and follow the other safety tips in the box above to avoid falling if you do go out.

·  Check-in on elderly family and neighbors. If you’re at all concerned about someone’s safety, don’t let him or she put you off. Stop by if you can.

·  Clear walkways and handrails of snow and ice. Put down salt or other ice melter. Encourage seniors to stay inside. Falls often spell disaster for older adults. Bring in mail and newspapers for them.

·  Check supplies of food and emergency items like flashlights, batteries, and battery-powered radio.

·  Check to make sure a space heater is being used properly: plug into outlet, not extension cord. Keep at least 3 feet away from anything that could burn, including the wall.

·  Plan ahead for any emergency power needs of mechanical medical equipment.

·  Offer to drive, if someone must get out (pick up a prescription, medical appointment, etc.),

·  Be a friend. Some seniors can get very isolated and stormy weather can make it worse.

·  Once the storm as passed – inspect property as soon as possible for damage. You may be able to help an older loved one with repairs or insurance matters.

Stay warm out there and let us know if we can help!

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

November 7, 2023

National Family Caregivers Month

November is National Family Caregivers Month. We gratefully honor those who tirelessly and selflessly give their devotion and energy to their family members who need care, especially those who are caring for someone living with Alzheimer's disease or other dementia.
 
Each year, more than 11 million family members and friends in the U.S. provide an estimated 18 billion hours of unpaid care, both in person and virtually, to those with Alzheimer's and other dementia. Their commitment is driven by love, their sense of duty and necessity of the situation. In 2022, this type of care had an estimated economic value of $340 billion.

I want to take a moment to thank caregivers everywhere for making such an incredible impact on the lives of those living with Alzheimer’s.

The challenges of being a caregiver can be even greater during the holidays. The holidays are often filled with opportunities for family togetherness, sharing and laughter. But they can also bring stress, disappointment and sadness.

Make sure you take some time out for yourself, lean on other family and friends to help you. Hire a caregiver for some respite. Thank you!N

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

November 2, 2023

Is Home Care Right For You or Your Loved One?

Fall is here and what a beautiful time of year! As the pandemic shifts into a new era and more seniors have thankfully received their vaccinations, more and older adults and their families are drawn to “aging in place” and finding live-in home care to help them make it a reality.

According to most recent statistics from the Institute on Aging, 70% of older adults in the United States will require assistance with dressing, hygiene, medication reminders, light housekeeping and other daily chores. The average number of years someone receives help at home is a little over 3 years, and that can be 4 hours a week, to live-in care. As the nation’s aging population expands to almost 74 million in 2030 (the year the youngest baby boomers reach age 65), that need will grow exponentially.

At the start of the pandemic, families were initially frightened about having a caregiver come into their loved one’s home for a few hours or all day, it was a difficult time for everyone. We are now beginning to find that families recognize the need for their loved ones to have care and their loved ones has been vaccinated and they are less afraid of COVID-19.

What does home care offer? For starters, it allows individuals to remain safe and comfortable in their own homes. They don’t have to give up the place they call home or worry about packing, moving and leaving precious memories behind.

There are many older adults who can benefit from home care. This ranges from someone who is lonely and would like companionship and support at home to individuals with cognitive impairment including dementia and those at the end-stages of life who require assistance with all care needs.

Also an older adult would benefit shorter-term live-in care can be beneficial to those who have had a recent hospitalization or surgery, are recovering at home and need help for a few days to a few weeks. One of our clients’ recently shared with me “my father came home from the hospital and he was in a condition in which we thought he may not make it. This was a very difficult time for us and we did not know what to do. we chose to have a live-in caregiver. My father is now getting up out of bed, eating at the table, laughing, and his caregiver was able to take him out to dinner to celebrate his recovery. Thank you to the home care team

Home Care also provides peace of mind to children who live at a distance from their aging parents and want to know that their parents are being well take care of and are safe at home. As one client puts it, “my family and I have been receiving services for over two years for my mother with Alzheimer’s. Your caregivers have increased her quality of life, which was deteriorating before they started working with us. They are supportive, caring and understand the struggles that my father and family are going through.”

So is this something to be thinking about for your loved one, family member, or friend. The next few blogs I will be writing about care at home, when to decide if that is something you may need? The next few blogs I will writing about home care, when it is a good time to bring care into the home is. What to look for during your holiday visits? What questions to ask the provider? Stay tuned !

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

August 22, 2023

Staying Active and Safe as Temperatures Rise

Today's seniors are more active than ever before. Popular pastimes such as golf, bike riding and gardening provide daily opportunities to exercise and socialize, and there's no better time to enjoy these outdoor pursuits than the summer months. However, as temps rise to potentially dangerous levels, it becomes increasingly important to stay safe while you're outside. If you have an active senior in your life, be sure to share these tips: 

1. Know the signs . Be alert for common signs of heat exhaustion, which include heavy sweating, paleness, muscle cramps, tiredness, weakness, dizziness, headache, nausea, vomiting and fainting. Seek medical attention right away if you notice any of these symptoms.

2. Stay hydrated. Your body needs more water than you may think - and you need to drink before you are thirsty. Ask your doctor how much you should be drinking if you are directed to limit your fluid intake due to certain medications.

3. Time it right and take plenty of breaks. Make the most of early morning and evening hours (before 11 a.m. and after 4 p.m.) when temperatures are cooler to do outdoor activities such as gardening or walking. Take regular breaks from the heat in air-conditioned areas or designated cooling centers, if necessary.

4. Take it inside. Don't let the heat keep you sedentary.  When it's too hot for your usual outdoor jog or bike ride, explore indoor-based activities at the gym or your community center. Many Medicare Advantage plans cover gym memberships, so be sure to brush up on your benefits to get the most out of your plan.

5. Use the buddy system.  If you choose to do an outdoor activity when it's hot, bring a friend. Besides enjoying each other's company, you can help each other stay alert to any signs of heat stress or get help if necessary.

6. Skip the stove.  Cooking can heat up your living space quickly, so avoid turning on the stove or oven when it's very hot. Cold foods like salad, fresh fruit and yogurt can be healthy, convenient and refreshing options when the mercury rises.    

Stay cool and hydrated!

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

July 17, 2023

Practicing Self Care

July 24^th is International Self Care day. It is crucial that we take care of ourselves and take some time to do what’s good for us. Self care is the most important way to boost and maintain both emotional and physical health. Many people today neglect it due to a lack of time, and this negatively impacts the lives of those who do not make sure they are putting themselves first. Self care should always come first, and should never be a reward. Allowing yourself to eat, shower, or even use the bathroom should never come second other tasks. This means that we as people need to accept that some things may need to be put on hold so that we can properly care for ourselves. Below is the list of reasons as to why self-care is so important to implement, as well as a list of self care activities.

By taking just a few minutes to yourself each day you can allow yourself to be more productive, as well as produce higher quality work. This is because stress has a negative effect on both the mind and body hindering both quantity and quality of work.

In today's society people are praised and judged on how well they multitask. We see multitasking as increasing efficiency, but taking on too many tasks at once increases stress and anxiety. It also tires out your brain and body because you are pushing yourself either too hard or beyond your limits. Another way to keep yourself from giving up is to challenge negative self talk. Self talk is our inner voice of conscious and unconscious thoughts. Instead of telling yourself that it is pointless to study for a test because you are going to fail you should tell yourself that if you study you are less likely to fail, or that you can achieve a good great with studying and determination.

Making sure you receive enough sleep and proper nutrition is crucial in providing yourself with the energy to complete the most basic daily tasks such as showering, doing laundry, and running errands.

Doing one thing at a time, read, use a planner/make a daily schedule, create a budget, go for a walk, cooking, keep a journal, write poetry, draw, paint, color, talk about things that bother you, meditate, deep muscle relaxation, take a shower or bath, go for a walk or run, deep breathing, take time to process feelings and emotions, watch a movie or television show, attend support groups or therapy, exercise, yoga, take a nap, challenging negative self talk, go out with friends, incorporate positive affirmations or positive self-talk, reward yourself for completing difficult tasks, photograph things that interest you, brush your hair, your makeup, write a letter, volunteer, garden, get a haircut, do laundry, clean your living space, take a day trip or vacation, go for a bike ride, go to a concert, sleep in, go out to dinner, collage, knit, sew, crochet, go on a date, cuddle, get a massage, get a manicure or pedicure, use essential oils, eat healthy, go camping, go hiking, go dancing, say no to invitations or requests when you already feel overwhelmed, always ask for help when you need it, and remind yourself that it is okay to feel the emotions you are currently feeling.

Happy Self Care!!

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

May 3, 2023

Coping With Day-to-Day Anxiety

Battling anxiety can be a long and exhausting process, especially if you are undergoing therapy -it can take its toll on you for sure. While you’re doing whatever it is you’re doing to overcome your anxiety, here’s a list of ways you can improve anxiety right now. If you’re not currently doing anything then this list will be even more helpful!

1. Put on a FUN song, that instantly cheers you up and makes you move your butt. Set it as your alarm whilst you’re at it.

2. Take an energizing shower, wash your hair, exfoliate

3. Take deep long breaths.

4. Eat healthy – it makes a huge difference to how we feel. This is the diet that works best for me but find out what works well for you.

5. Watch something funny and laugh.

6. Get some Vitamin D! If your anxiety stops you from getting out in the sun, try a supplement if you are not able to get out in the sun as much. Check with your doctor first.

7. Write your thoughts down and keep track of when they typically occur.

8. If you can get out, take a nice long walk somewhere quiet, away from cars, houses and people. Clear that head!

9. Clean your house. Less clutter in your house, less clutter in your brain.

10.     Realize you can’t control every situation and that it’s okay.

11.     Say some nice things about yourself instead of focusing on anything negative.

12.     Be selfish for the day – do things just for you because it’s exhausting thinking about other people 24/7.

13.     Get unplugged. Turn off your phone, get off social media and do things that don’t require being logged in to something.

14.     Stretch your body and do some muscle relaxation.

15.     Do an exercise DVD.

16.     Try a candle-lit bath if you’re feeling stressed by your anxiety.

17.     Avoid caffeine and alcohol.

18.     Do something you know you’re already good at and give yourself a confidence boost.

19.     Read a self-help book.

20.    Try and get a better night’s sleep – change of diet and more exercise may help this but if you still struggle to sleep this is something worth looking into, as tiredness only promotes anxiety.

These tips obviously won’t help you completely overcome your anxiety but should hopefully help you with the more immediate day-to-day stuff. If you’re struggling severely and your anxiety is unbearable, you should definitely consult your doctor and find the best treatment for you, whether it’s therapy or medication or a mix of both. And remeber, it's important to take care of you!

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

April 6, 2023

Spring is the Perfect Time for a Care Audit

I am writing this on a warm spring day and everyone is outside, running, playing in the park and so much green, I just love it. While I was outside leaving a client’s house this morning, I noticed a man walking around, it did not seem like he knew where he was going, and he was wandering. I saw him when I walked into the client’s home and when I came out over one hour later; he was still walking, on the same street. Could it be coincidence or was he walking up and down the street. Was he lost? Confused? I did not want to startle him, but I was concerned. I waited in my car and watched him for a bit, it was about 20 minutes later and he continue to walk up and down the same side of the street.

I needed to do something, but maybe he was just exercising and staying on one side walking up and down, but his expression on his face gave me reason for concern. There was no smile, no frown, nothing just a bit of a panic look. I stopped my car and walked up to this older man, who was wearing a winter coat, it was 68 degrees out. He was dressed nicely, looked well taken care of, but looked lost. 

Gently, I walked up, introduced myself, and said I was concerned, he looked at me and said with such confidence,” I am concerned too, but I do not remember why!” He told me his name and mentioned he had gone out for a walk and that is all he remembers. He had no identification on him, no alert bracelet and asked him anyone he wanted me to call, or get a hold of. He did not know any numbers and said to me, I am bad with names.

Nothing looked familiar to him and my client came outside as she noticed I was still on the block. She has lived on this block for over 45 years and he did not look familiar. It was getting warm and I suggested he remove his coat, he did not as he was cold. Therefore, I told him I was going to call the non-emergency police and we would get his home. He looked a bit relieved and was warming up to me.

I called the number, told my location and a short description of this man and they would be sending someone over. Within 5 minutes, two police cars pulled up, he seemed to remember what a police car looked like and was smiling, which was good to see. This man was missing for a few hours, seven blocks away and he crossed a busy street. How he got here, I do not know. The police officer called this man’s son and he would be right over.

I waited with the police, as my job was not over yet, and when the son pulled up, his face spoke volumes. First, he got upset but then he quickly was very grateful and so happy his dad was okay. The son was very thankful and I introduced myself, and I told him what I did for a living. I was wearing my work badge.

He asked me about our services and at that exact moment, he said we need some help. He is getting a life alert unit immediately, (Help me I’ve fallen and cannot get up) and will think about other services. ‘The family was very grateful their dad was okay, but another time, that may not be the case.

So this spring have those conversations about care, life alert buttons, etc. Put services in place before it is too late. Only takes once. They are not always easy conversations but need to be had; safety in the number one priority and at times just a little help, device, visit is all you need.

Happy Spring!

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

February 24, 2023

Heart Health for Women

Heart disease may be considered by some to be more of a problem for men. However, it's the most common cause of death for both women and men in the United States. Heart disease is the #1 killer of women. Because some heart disease symptoms in women can differ from those in men, women may not know what to look for.

Heart attack symptoms for women

The most common heart attack symptom in women is the same as in men — some type of chest pain, pressure or discomfort that lasts more than a few minutes or comes and goes.

But chest pain is not always severe or even the most noticeable symptom, particularly in women. Women often describe heart attack pain as pressure or tightness. And it's possible to have a heart attack without chest pain.

Women are more likely than men to have heart attack symptoms unrelated to chest pain, such as:

• Neck, jaw, shoulder, upper back or upper belly (abdomen) discomfort
• Shortness of breath
• Pain in one or both arms
• Nausea or vomiting
• Sweating
• Lightheadedness or dizziness
• Unusual fatigue
• Heartburn (indigestion)

These symptoms may be vague and not as noticeable as the crushing chest pain often associated with heart attacks. This might be because women tend to have blockages not only in their main arteries but also in the smaller ones that supply blood to the heart — a condition called small vessel heart disease or coronary microvascular disease.

Compared with men, women tend to have symptoms more often when resting, or even when asleep Emotional stress can play a role in triggering heart attack symptoms in women.

Because women's heart attack symptoms can differ from men's, women might be diagnosed less often with heart disease than are men. Women are more likely than men to have a heart attack with no severe blockage in an artery (nonconstructive coronary artery disease).

When to see a doctor

If you have symptoms of a heart attack or think you're having one, call for emergency medical help immediately. Don't drive yourself to the emergency room unless you have no other options.

Heart disease risk factors for women

Several traditional risk factors for coronary artery disease — such as high cholesterol, high blood pressure and obesity — affect both women and men. But other factors may play a bigger role in the development of heart disease in women.

Heart disease risk factors for women include:

• Diabetes. Women with diabetes are more likely to develop heart disease than are men with diabetes. Also, because diabetes can change the way women feel pain, there's an increased risk of having a silent heart attack — without symptoms.

• Emotional stress and depression. Stress and depression affect women's hearts more than men's. Depression may make it difficult to maintain a healthy lifestyle and follow recommended treatment for other health conditions.

• Smoking. Smoking is a greater risk factor for heart disease in women than it is in men.

• Inactivity. A lack of physical activity is a major risk factor for heart disease.

• Menopause. Low levels of estrogen after menopause increase the risk of developing disease in smaller blood vessels.

• Pregnancy complications. High blood pressure or diabetes during pregnancy can increase the mother's long-term risk of high blood pressure and diabetes. These conditions also make women more likely to get heart disease.

• Family history of early heart disease. This appears to be a greater risk factor in women than in men.

• Inflammatory diseases. Rheumatoid arthritis, lupus and other inflammatory conditions may increase the risk of heart disease in both men and women.
  

Women of all ages should take heart disease seriously. Women under age 65 — especially those with a family history of heart disease — also need to pay close attention to heart disease risk factors.

Lifestyle and home remedies

Living a healthy lifestyle can help reduce the risk of heart disease. Try these heart-healthy strategies:

• Quit smoking. If you don't smoke, don't start. Try to avoid exposure to secondhand smoke, which also can damage blood vessels.

• Eat a healthy diet. Opt for whole grains, fruits and vegetables, low-fat or fat-free dairy products, and lean meats. Avoid saturated or trans fats, added sugars, and high amounts of salt.

• Exercise and maintain a healthy weight. If you're overweight, losing even a few pounds can lower heart disease risks. Ask your health care provider what weight is best for you.

• Manage stress. Stress can cause the arteries to tighten, which can increase the risk of heart disease, particularly coronary microvascular disease. Getting more exercise, practicing mindfulness and connecting with others in support groups are some ways to tame stress.

• Avoid or limit alcohol. If you choose to drink alcohol, do so in moderation. For healthy adults, that means up to one drink a day for women and up to two drinks a day for men.

• Follow your treatment plan. Take medications as prescribed, such as blood pressure medications, blood thinners and aspirin.

• Manage other health conditions. High blood pressure, high cholesterol and diabetes increase the risk of heart disease.

As we celebrate Heart Month, we need to remember to take care of our own heart health. 

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

January 19, 2023

Tips For a Fresh Start in the New Year

No matter who you are or what your background is, you’d be hard-pressed to find someone who doesn’t appreciate a fresh start. A reset. A clean slate. And even though the New Year is a great time to set resolutions that support your mental well being, it can also be challenging to follow through. External triggers, unforeseen events and old habits throw constant curve balls that can derail the best intentions. 

There are tons of products and services available that can help make achieving wellness goals a reality, such as gym memberships, meal delivery services and counseling. 

Setting resolutions that support mental well being, which includes your thoughts, feelings and actions, can have a positive ripple effect on everyday life. Whether your resolutions focus on the physical, like working out more, or emotional, such as setting boundaries, it helps to have a game plan. Here are some tips to help you keep your well being intentions throughout the year. 

Adjust Your Attitude 

First and foremost, try your best to approach goals with a positive attitude. Studies have shown how attitude plays a role in developing new habits. It stressed how habits are more likely to be developed by people who practice meditation and mindfulness, because it not only reduces anxiety, depression and stress, it also increases self-compassion and psychological wellbeing. 

Evaluate Old Goals 

Reflection on past goals can offer valuable insight as you come up with a new list of resolutions. Ask yourself questions such as 

• What challenges did I face? 
• Did I have control over those challenges? 
• What similarities and/or differences do previous goals have with my new ones? 

Answering these questions ahead of time can help you avoid repeating old habits. 

Anticipate Challenges with a Plan 

Evidence shows that creating an action plan is tremendously helpful to for how you will reach your goals and respond to stressful and awkward situations that could throw you off track. In short, if X happens, I will do Y. For example, if your goal is not to drink alcohol, have a rehearsed response ready should you be offered an alcoholic drink at a party, such as “No, thank you, But I will take a water.” 

Brainstorming scenarios and your desired response prepares you to respond intentionally, rather than reverting to old habits. 

Get Rested 

Have you noticed how everything seems harder when you’re tired? To enhance decision making, improve productivity and heal your body. Combined, you will be able to make choices that improve your mental well being. Resting is critical, find time to rest, and work on getting a good night’s sleep.

The Mental Health First Aid (MHFA) curricula recommend giving your body time to relax. Unplug from electronics (goodnight, social media!), improve your sleep and develop healthy habits like meditation, yoga and stretching. 

Seek Out Support 

Instead of tackling your mental wellbeing goals alone, improve your chances of success by finding support. MHFA recommends finding programs, activities and people who can support you in your goals. 

For those experiencing mental health challenges, know that you’re not alone. Consider reaching out to a professional to start. They may recommend a peer-support group, counseling, life coaching or something else. 

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

December 13, 2022

Making Sure Our Loved Ones Are Doing Okay During the Holidays

It has been quite some time since you’ve had the opportunity for a good, long visit with our senior loved ones. Now that the holidays are here, you will have some uninterrupted time to catch up. Of course you’ll want to fully enjoy this time with each other, but it’s also a great time to assess how they are really doing and if you’re picking up on any changes in health or life quality that perhaps have gone undiscovered through phone conversations and FaceTime.

To help you determine areas of possible concern to evaluate, we have provided the following list of questions for older adults. You may wish to ask some of these questions to the senior outright, while others may be answered by observing the home environment and the person himself.

Mental/Physical Health

• Does he seem short of breath?
• ·Does he seem happy and content?
• Is he spending time with friends?
• Is he actively engaged in enjoyable activities?
• Is he having trouble falling or staying asleep?
• Does the senior seem to be moving more slowly and cautiously?
• Do you notice any bruises or other injuries that could indicate a fall?
• Is he stumbling or holding onto furniture or the wall to get around?
• Is he eating more or less than usual?
• Has he gained or lost weight?

Cognitive Functioning

• Is he repeating questions or statements in conversations?
• Does the senior seem more forgetful or confused than usual?
• Is he struggling to remember the names of familiar people or objects?
• Are there pieces of mail or bills that have not been opened?
• Are you noticing any unusual behaviors?
• Is he misplacing items, only to find them in unexpected places, such as the car keys in the refrigerator?

Elder/Financial Abuse

 Are there any changes in his banking activity?

• Does the senior seem more timid or anxious than usual?
• Has he cosigned for a loan for anyone?
• Is he communicating with strangers online?
• Has he provided anyone with personal information over the phone or internet?
• Does he suddenly have a new “friendship” with someone whose motives may be questionable?

Home Maintenance

• Is there clutter in the home that could pose a fall risk?
• Is the laundry clean and put away?
• Is the home cleaned to the senior’s typical standards?
• Are there any hazards you’re noticing, such as scorch marks on pans or the countertop that could indicate inattention to cooking?
• Are the bed linens being changed regularly?

If you have any concerns about a senior’s safety or well-being, no matter how small, home care can help please feel free to reach out to Norwood Seniors Network @ 773-631-5673

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

November 16, 2022

Maintaining Good Emotional Health

How often do you think about your emotional wellness? While taking stock of our stress levels, it is an excellent time to make some changes, too. Stress comes into all our lives in varying amounts. Depending on our demands, emotional health can take a toll. However, noting the causes of our stress helps identify the biggest offenders so we can stop them.

Asses Your Stress

• Review your financial plan. Make sure your plan aligns with your savings and income with our goals. You may need to readjust for the future or change current spending habits. Even planning for a dream vacation can improve emotional wellness when done responsibly. 

• Calculate screen time. In this digital world, the amount of time we spend online influences our emotional health. We are bombarded by data, news, and alerts constantly. Consider reducing the amount of time spent in front of the screen. One way to reduce online and screen time is to unplug one day a week. Use the time to read a book, schedule a massage, and go for a walk. Rate your emotional wellness before and after your unplugged time. 

• Assess resources available to you. Many employers offer tools and discounts for emotional wellness. Checking with your human resources department is an excellent place to start. From videos to free counseling sessions, these benefits provide substantial relief when life seems upside down.

• Remember the relationships in your life. This is a big one. Friends, family and even co-workers play a huge role in our emotional health. They improve our social and spiritual wellbeing by keeping us connected. Human beings thrive on social interactions. Without them, we feel isolated. Large or small, a well-balanced, healthy, social community provides satisfying spiritual, emotional, recreational and educational benefits. As a result, our friends and family provide a strong support system we rely upon when a crisis strikes. 

• Pay attention to your physical health. Keep up with routine health checks. Also, add healthy eating habits and increase physical activity to reduce overall anxiety.

This might be a good time to set some goals for reducing stress in your life. Consider what your biggest stressors are and the best ways to remove them. How do you reduce stress? Do you have a stellar support system? By identifying stressors and improving our emotional health, we are more likely to surf through the highs and lows in life more successfully.

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

October 5, 2022

Protecting Your Eyes



The month of October is notable for seeing pumpkins, shorter days, and seeing the leaves beginning to change to the beautiful fall season colors. In addition, Eye Injury Prevention Month is proclaimed to emphasize the importance of preventing accidents and injury to your eyes. Did you know that 44% of eye injuries happen in the home, and about 15% of eye injuries occur in the workplace? Nearly one million people are affected annually by an eye injury, and 90% of those injuries could have been prevented if the individuals wore protective eyewear. We want to bring awareness to ensure healthy eyes by sharing tips and facts that should be a year-round concern.

What Are The Most Common Eye Injuries?

Costume Contacts and Makeup

Halloween is fast approaching, and many people will apply makeup near their eyes or wear contacts to enhance their costumes. Please remember to avoid putting makeup too close to your eyes, do not use expired products, and do not use costume contacts unless prescribed by your eye doctor.

Too Much Sun Exposure 

Ultraviolet rays from the sun can cause significant damage to the eyes. The UVA and UVB harmful rays can cause corneal sunburns from overexposure. It is essential to wear sunglasses that block UVA and UVB rays while raking leaves, driving, or playing sports outdoors.

Sports-related Accidents

The football season is in full swing, and for those who play that or any sport, a forceful impact can cause damage to the orbital socket and eye if the eyes are left unprotected. This is why athletes need to wear protective goggles, faceguards, and helmets. Whether playing for a league or having fun playing a sport in the backyard, always remember to wear the proper safety gear.

Chemical Exposure

Daily, we are exposed to various chemicals from cooking products, pesticides, cleaning products, and car batteries. A single splash or fumes can accidentally irritate or injure our eyes. Always wear protective glasses and follow instructions to prevent an eye injury.

How to Treat an Eye Injury?

If an eye injury occurs with you or a loved one, remember to follow the safety tips below to protect your eyes:

• Do not rub the eye
• Do not apply pressure
• Flush the eye with clean water if the eye was exposed to chemicals
• Do not remove or pull any object that may be stuck in the eye
• Immediately seek medical attention!

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

June 6, 2022

Tips for Organizing Important Papers

Long before she fell, Louise put all her important papers in one place and told her son where to find them. She gave him the name of her lawyer, as well as a list of people he could contact at her bank, doctor's office, insurance company, and investment firm. She made sure he had copies of her Medicare and other health insurance cards. She made sure her son could access her checking account and safe deposit box at the bank. Louise made sure Medicare and her doctor had written permission to talk with her son about her health and insurance claims.

On the other hand, Ben always took care of family money matters, and he never talked about the details with Shirley. No one but Ben knew that his life insurance policy was in a box in the closet or that the car title and deed to the house were filed in his desk drawer. Ben never expected that his wife would have to take over. His lack of planning has made a tough job even tougher for Shirley.

What Exactly Is an "Important Paper"?

The answer to this question may be different for every family. Remember, this is a starting place. You may have other information to add. For example, if you have a pet, you will want to include the name and address of your veterinarian. Include complete information about:

Personal Records

• Full legal name
• Social Security number
• Legal residence
• Date and place of birth
• Names and addresses of spouse and children
• Location of birth and death certificates and certificates of marriage, divorce, citizenship, and adoption
• Employers and dates of employment
• Education and military records
• Names and phone numbers of religious contacts
• Memberships in groups and awards received
• Names and phone numbers of close friends, relatives, doctors, lawyers, and financial advisors
• Medications taken regularly (be sure to update this regularly)
• Location of living will and other legal documents

Financial Records

• Sources of income and assets (pension from your employer, IRAs, 401(k)s, interest, etc.)
• Social Security and Medicare/Medicaid information
• Insurance information (life, health, long-term care, home, car) with policy numbers and agents' names and phone numbers
• Names of your banks and account numbers (checking, savings, credit union)
• Investment income (stocks, bonds, property) and stockbrokers' names and phone numbers
• Copy of most recent income tax return
• Location of most up-to-date will with an original signature
• Liabilities, including property tax— what is owed, to whom, and when payments are due
• Mortgages and debts—how and when they are paid
• Location of original deed of trust for home
• Car title and registration
• Credit and debit card names and numbers
• Location of safe deposit box and key

Important Legal Documents You May Need as You Age

There are many different types of legal documents that can help you plan how your affairs will be handled in the future. Many of these documents have names that sound alike, so make sure you are getting the documents you want. In addition, State laws vary, so find out about the rules, requirements, and forms used in your State.

Wills and trusts let you name the person you want your money and property to go to after you die. Advance directives let you arrange for your care if you become sick.

Two common types of advance directives are:

• A living will gives you a say in your health care if you become too sick to make your wishes known. In a living will, you can state what kind of care you do or do not want. This can make it easier for family members to make tough healthcare decisions for you.
• A durable power of attorney for health care lets you name the person you want to make medical decisions for you if you cannot make them yourself. Make sure the person you name is willing to make those decisions for you.

For legal matters, there are ways to give someone you trust the power to act in your place.

• A general power of attorney lets you give someone else the authority to act on your behalf, but this power will end if you are unable to make your own decisions.
• A durable power of attorney allows you to name someone to act on your behalf for any legal task, but it stays in place if you become unable to make your own decisions.

Help for Getting Your Legal and Financial Papers in Order

You may want to talk with a lawyer about setting up a general power of attorney, durable power of attorney, joint account, trust, or advance directive. Be sure to ask about the lawyer's fees before you make an appointment.

You should be able to find a directory of local lawyers on the Internet or at your local library, or you can contact your local bar association for lawyers in your area. Your local bar association can also help you find what free legal aid options your State has to offer. An informed family member may be able to help you manage some of these issues.

Frequently Asked Questions about Getting Your Affairs in Order

Getting your affairs in order can be difficult, but it is an important part of preparing for the future, for you and your loved ones. It is important to gather as much information as possible to help ease the process. Here are a few questions that you may have and some answers that can help.

Whom should you choose to be your healthcare proxy?

If you decide to choose a proxy, think about people you know who share your views and values about life and medical decisions. Your proxy might be a family member, a friend, your lawyer, or someone with whom you worship. Learn more about selecting a healthcare proxy.

It can be overwhelming to be asked to make healthcare decisions for someone who is no longer able to make his or her own decisions. Get a better understanding of how to make healthcare decisions for a loved one, including approaches you can take, issues you might face, and questions you can ask to help you prepare.

How do you help someone with Alzheimer’s or dementia get their affairs in order?

A complication of diseases such as Alzheimer’s is that the person may lack or gradually lose the ability to think clearly. This change affects his or her ability to participate meaningfully in decision-making and makes early planning even more important. Read these legal and financial planning tips for people with Alzheimer’s disease.

I want to make sure my affairs are in order before I die, but I am not sure where to begin.

The National Institute on Aging has free publications that can help you and your loved ones discuss key issues at the end of life, including finding hospice care, what happens at the time of death, managing grief, preparing advance directives, and other information.

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

May 12, 2022

May is Mental Health Awareness Month

Whether you realize it or not, mental health plays a big role in your overall well-being. When you are mentally healthy, you are able to enjoy your life and the people in it, feel good about yourself, keep up good relationships, and deal with stress. It is normal for your mental health to shift over time – we all face difficult situations in our lives. Creating positive habits is a great way to support your mental health when you are doing well and helps you build skills to use if you do face symptoms of a mental health condition.

Mental health refers to our emotional and social well-being and impacts how we think, feel, and behave. It plays a role in connecting with others, making decisions, handling stress, and many other aspects of daily life. Everyone has mental health, and it deserves your attention just as much as your physical health does.

Mental health is important for all of us. Taking care of yourself is critical to prevent your mental health from worsening – factors like nutrition and gut health, stress, sleep, relationships, trauma, and more can contribute to poor mental health. If your mental health is in a good spot, it is a great time to practice coping skills – ways to help you deal with hard feelings – so that you are better able to handle tough times when they happen.

You can have times of poor mental health without having a diagnosable condition – just as if you can be generally physically unhealthy without having a particular illness. A mental health concern is anything that causes a person to believe their mental health may be suffering. You do not need to be diagnosed with a mental health condition to be dealing with a mental health concern.

Many people struggle with not feeling “sick enough” to seek help early on in their mental health journey. The average delay between symptom onset and treatment is 11 years, meaning a lot of people spend months or years facing mental health challenges before getting a diagnosis. It is never too early to seek treatment – if you want help for your mental health, you deserve to get it.

People with mental health conditions deal with changes in emotions, thinking, and/or behavior. For some, this means extreme and unexpected changes in mood – like feeling much more sad or worried than usual. For others, it means not thinking clearly, pulling away from friends and activities, you used to enjoy, or hearing voices that others do not. To be diagnosed, the changes in your thinking and emotions must be seriously hurting your ability to do the things you want to do; and sticking around longer than they should – weeks or months, depending on the condition. No matter what kind of mental health condition someone is facing, it is always possible to recover.

Many of our clients say one of the biggest issues they are having is not enough sleep and when they do get sleep, it is not good REM sleep. Sleep has been known to help with your mental health. Here are some tips for a good night’s sleep:

• Go to bed and wake up at the same time every day—including weekends. This helps to keep your body’s natural rhythms running on schedule.

• Avoid exercising 2-3 hours before your bedtime. Try to exercise in 30-minute sessions in either the morning or afternoon.

• Get out in the sun. Getting natural sunlight during the day helps to maintain your body’s sleep-wake cycle. Aim for 30 minutes of sun exposure and be sure to wear sunscreen.

• Limit caffeine to the morning. The energy-boosting effects of caffeine can take as long as 8 hours to wear off.

• Do not eat right before bed – it can cause indigestion and heartburn, which can mess up sleep.

• Nap smart. If you need a nap, take it before 3 p.m. and limit it to an hour.

• If you cannot fall asleep for more than 20 minutes after going to bed, get up and do something calming until you feel sleepy.

• Say no to nicotine. The nicotine in tobacco products and vapes is a stimulant, which can keep you up at night.

• See a doctor if you always feel tired even after getting enough sleep, or have trouble falling asleep every night.

• Some over-the-counter and prescription medications may affect your ability to go to sleep or cause you to sleep for longer than necessary. If you can’t avoid medications, talk to your doctor about changing your dose or the time you take your medicine

• Get rid of anything in your bedroom that might distract you from sleep, like noises or bright lights. The light from screens can confuse your body’s internal clock.

• Go easy on the drinks. Drinking too much before be can make you wake up to go to the bathroom and alcohol gets in the way of reaching the deep and restful stages of sleep.

So in not only the month of May, but every day take care of your physical and mental health. Take the time to care for you!

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

May 1, 2022

Staying Mentally Engaged

Older adults are often encouraged to stay active and engaged to keep their minds sharp, that they have to “use it or lose it.” However, new research indicates that only certain activities — learning a mentally demanding skill like photography, for instance — are likely to improve cognitive functioning.

These findings, forthcoming in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science, reveal that less demanding activities, such as listening to classical music or completing word puzzles, probably will not bring noticeable benefits to an aging mind.

“It seems it is not enough just to get out and do something—it is important to get out and do something that is unfamiliar and mentally challenging, and that provides broad stimulation mentally and socially,” says psychological scientist and lead researcher Denise Park of the University of Texas at Dallas. “When you are inside your comfort zone you may be outside of the enhancement zone.”

The new findings provide much-needed insight into the components of everyday activities that contribute to cognitive vitality as we age.

“We need, as a society, to learn how to maintain a healthy mind, just like we know how to maintain vascular health with diet and exercise,” says Park. “We know so little right now.”

For their study, Park and colleagues randomly assigned 221 adults, ages 60 to 90, to engage in a particular type of activity for 15 hours a week over the course of three months.

Some participants were assigned to learn a new skill — digital photography, quilting, or both — which required active engagement and tapped working memory, long-term memory and other high-level cognitive processes.

Other participants were instructed to engage in more familiar activities at home, such as listening to classical music and completing word puzzles. In addition, to account for the possible influence of social contact, some participants were assigned to a social group that included social interactions, field trips, and entertainment.

At the end of three months, Park and colleagues found that the adults who were productively engaged in learning new skills showed improvements in memory compared to those who engaged in social activities or non-demanding mental activities at home.

“The findings suggest that engagement alone is not enough,” says Park. “The three learning groups were pushed very hard to keep learning more and mastering more tasks and skills. Only the groups that were confronted with continuous and prolonged mental challenge improved.”

The study is particularly noteworthy given that the researchers were able to systematically intervene in people’s lives, putting them in new environments and providing them with skills and relationships:

“Our participants essentially agreed to be assigned randomly to different lifestyles for three months so that we could compare how different social and learning environments affected the mind,” says Park. “People built relationships and learned new skills — we hope these are gifts that keep on giving, and continue to be a source of engagement and stimulation even after they finished the study.”

Park and colleagues are planning to follow up with the participants one year and five years down the road to see if the effects remain over the long term. They believe that the research has the potential to be profoundly important and relevant, especially as the number of seniors continues to rise: “This is speculation, but what if challenging mental activity slows the rate at which the brain ages?” asks Park.“

Every year that you save could be an added year of high quality life and independence. Some food for thought!

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

February 15, 2022

Taking Care of Your Heart

Happy February! Not only is it the month of love, as we celebrate Valentine’s Day but it is also National Heart Awareness Month. Cardiac disease is the number one killer of both woman and men, and most of it is preventive. The CDC has given some tips to lessen your chance of experiencing a heart attack and heart health issues.

1.   Learn your Health History, know your risks and talk with your family and doctor about your health history.

2. Eat a Healthy Diet, Make healthy food choices like more fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean meats and low-fat dairy products. Eat less salt, saturated fat and added sugar.

3. Move More.. Sit Less.. Get at least 150 minutes of moderate-intensity aerobic activity every week, plus muscle-strengthening activities at least 2 days a week.

4. Quit Smoking: Call 1-800-QUIT-NOW for free help and take that first step on your journey to quit.

5. Take Medicines as Directed- If you take medicine to treat high cholesterol, high blood pressure, or diabetes. Follow your doctor’s instructions carefully. Always ask questions if you do not understand something. Never stop talking your medicine without speaking to your doctor, nurse or pharmacist.

6. Rethink your Drink.. Substitute water for sugary drinks to reduce calories. If you drink alcohol, do so in moderation by limiting consumption to no more than 1 drink a day for woman and 2 for men on days that alcohol is consumed.

7. Monitor Your Blood Pressure at Home- Self-measured blood pressure monitors are easy and safe to use, and your doctor can show you how to use one if you need help.

These 7 strategies anyone can do to prevent heart disease. Take time to love yourself and take care of your heart, it is the only one you have.

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

January 13, 2022

Senior Phone Scam Stories and Warnings

Getting Scammed over the Phone? You’re Not the Only One. Read a quick story that tells the real life story of a senior getting fraud calls if you are interested in how these scams play out. If not, skip down past this section to learn about the actual senior phone scams to look out for.

Ring. Ring. Ring. “Hello?” my grandmother answers her rotary phone. “Hello is this Madelyn?” a shaky voice asks on the other line. My grandmother responds, “Yes.” In addition, with that simple word the caller delves into the most emotionally exhausting monologue in the history of the planet.

It went something like this. The caller said that they were friends with one of my brother’s college friends. The caller knew my brother’s name. They also knew the name of a mutual friend. The mutual friend apparently invited my brother to Mexico a few weeks ago. While my brother was (fictionally) down there, he was robbed and lost his Passport. He was unable to return from the border, as he did not have any credentials. He had also gotten in an accident with his friend and had spent his remaining pesos on surgery at the hospital. The caller claimed he was a mutual friend and then went on to ask my grandmother for money.

I could not believe my ears when my mom told me about this! I was angry that anyone would target my grandmother- she has zero presence online so who knows how these scammers got her phone number. I can see how the scammer would know my brother’s name. I do not see how they would ever link my grandmother. Where do they even get her information?

Nevertheless, this actually happened. This is a real, live story. In addition, it’s affecting roughly 20% of seniors every year. Chances are your loved one already has received such a call or will get this call in the near future.

Imagine if the call came to your loved one. Do you think they would call you up right away to share this dreadful story? Maybe they would send the money and keep the story to themselves. Sometimes seniors are caught up in the emotional story, get their heartstrings tugged at, and give away their hard-earned money without having second thoughts.

I know of an elderly woman who is dear friends with my mother. She believes she is helping out some poor gold miners in a foreign country that keep getting shut down – every week they call her to ask her to send some more money to keep them going. In addition, she sends it. She feels so badly for them having to go without bread or clean water. She has sent them well over $200,000 and she does not believe for a second that she is being scammed. Despite our pleas and her family’s protests, she continues to send these scammers checks and money wires every time they phone her home.

According to Scambusters.org, seniors are scammed out of $2.6 billion every year with nearly 20% of this demographic being played by scammers. Never trust anyone who asks you for money over the phone – no matter how heart wrenching his or her story is.
 
Luckily, my grandmother knew this story was off. She hastily called my mother up and told her all about it. My mother then texted my brother asking him, “Are you in Mexico?” He texted back, “I wish.”

Does the story above sounds like something that could happen to you or a loved one? Continue reading to know what phone defrauds to avoid.

Top 5 Latest Senior Phone Scams to Watch Out For

1. Using Fake Timelines to Tell a Story

In one fraud, the caller says that they talked last fall (or some other appropriately long ago, vague date), and that Grandma asked him to call back at this time to talk about (fill in the blank for an expensive item Grandma never even dreamed about). It could be a cruise ship vacation, a building or remodeling project, and home repair, whatever.

2. Medicare Phone Scammers

Another fraud targets those on Medicare. Scammers either phone senior patients to ask for their health insurance information or provide phony services at a “mobile clinic.” Then the fraudsters bill Medicare for the services, which they did not provide. Often, the senior does not even know this has been done unless he needs a service that is allowed by Medicare only at specific intervals, like once a year. Then, the senior would be told that he had that test (or whatever) and he does not qualify for another until next year without him paying for it. We all know how expensive medical services can be – that is why Medicare exists.

3. Mourning or Loss Phone Scammers

Sad to say, phone scammers even prey on those who are in mourning. Some frauds attend a funeral and tell the family that the deceased owed him money, trying to be paid back for a loan that was never made. Make sure to keep track of expenses carefully, including any potential funeral costs, to avoid these scammers.

4. IRS Phone Scammers

Over five million dollars has been bilked out of seniors in all fifty states who have fallen victim to the IRS phone fraud. A caller says that back taxes are owed, naming a large figure. Then the caller threatens to have the senior arrested, sued in court or have his or her driver’s license suspended. The IRS has investigated over 290,000 of these calls in the past eighteen months. Probably many more people wrote a check and mailed it to the IRS scammers and they are too ashamed to report it. This is a common result with crimes by con artists, who often fool very intelligent people.

5. Faked Relatives

When a young-sounding voice on the phone asks, “Do you know who this is, Grandpa?” the best thing to do may be to hang up. If you guess with the name of one of your grandchildren, then you have given the fraud his fake identity. The caller will then tell a sad story about 1) needed car repairs, 2) being stranded in some town, 3) overdue rent or some other financial problem. After convincing the senior to wire the money by Western Union or MoneyGram, who sometimes do not require ID to pick up money, the caller will beg, “Please don’t tell my parents. They would kill me.” Doting grandparents are often willing to oblige and they become victims of the scam.

Phone con artists are great at spotting where seniors are vulnerable and working on it. If someone you do not know is on the phone asking for money, you should hang up. If you think it might be your grandchild, ask for their phone number and tell them you will phone them right back. This gives you time to Google the number (just type the number into a Google search bar) – often it will turn up to be a fraud, which you will quickly see if it is listed as a fraudulent number on sites like 800notes.com. Alternatively, check with the parents of the child or the child herself; better to check and the parents would be glad to know if there is a problem, the child is hiding from them.

How to Report Phone Scams

If you suspect that you have been the victim of a fraud, do not be afraid to talk about it. It could save many other people from the same embarrassment. You can call the Eldercare Locator, a government sponsored national resource line, at 1-800-677-1116. They will give you the phone number of your local Adult Protective Services. Seniors have become the victims of the top crimes of the twenty-first century. You might not see it on TV because these problems are not considered glamorous. However, financial phone frauds targeting the elderly are rampant. Do not let yourself become a victim. When in doubt, just hang up.

Also be wary of internet frauds that target seniors – follow these tips to keep your information secure online.

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

December 31, 2021

Well, it’s that time of year again… How did it come by so quickly this year, but I find myself saying that every year? It’s a new year.. 2022.. A time to think and decide what are you New Year’s Resolutions going to be? Or do you even have them? And if you do, do they stick? Like each January 1^st my gym is so crowded, by the 15^th it’s the same old crowd. 

Why do we even have resolutions? Can’t we start working on our goals anytime of the year, but does the first of the year, feel like a new beginning? Do you find yourself having the same resolutions each year? Lose weight, get in better health, quit smoking, and keep in touch with friends better. I feel our intentions are good and we want to work on them, but something happens and we don’t anymore. I recently heard that 74% of people make resolutions and 21% keep them 3 months in. 

So, I challenge you to make only one resolution and work on it. Try to keep it for the entire year! Work on something that is important to you that will motivate you and may make your world a better place to be. The one resolution that you choose make it short, simple and write it down, tell someone. One of my girlfriends and her family come up with one resolution each year, they write in on a white board and it is displayed in their home so each family member can see it and work on it each day, they are accountable to each other and to themselves. They will celebrate at the end of the year when they have stuck out their resolutions each year. Sometimes doing this with a friend, family, colleague can make for a more successful outcome.

Some examples of resolutions would be, the most common resolution is drinking more water> It’s easy, good for you and everyone can do it.

Move more, get more steps in, in the cold months walk inside your home, the mall, bundle up and go outside.

Connect with a friend that you have lost touch with. Spend some time together and reconnect that friendship.

Spend 5 minutes a day, cleaning and organizing. Recycle papers, clean the sink, these small tasks will make you feel better when you have a clean and non-cluttered home.

Write a handwritten note or letter. I do this quite often and I know people appreciate the time and effort you took. Everyone loves a handwritten note.



These are just a few, and they are all easy and can be done. So when you are ringing in the New Year, take a moment and pick a resolution that you are excited to work on. Wishing everyone a Happy 2022!  

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

November 23, 2021

Some Things to Look For When Visiting Senior Loved Ones This Holiday Season

It is the holidays once again, how did they come here so quickly. Whether you are seeing your parents/loved ones in person or on zoom, look for some of these signs to determine if they are doing well living on their own. Do they need some help? Companionship?

1.  Look through their mail and financial information. 

Are they paying bills late or not paying them at all? Are they making any financial decisions that don’t seem right?

2.  Broken or damaged appliances and fixtures
Have they stopped cooking or maintaining a regular meal schedule because their kitchen appliances don’t work? Are important items, such as light bulbs or smoke alarms, breaking or not being tended to?

3.  Changes in mood or behaviors 
Are your parents acting differently toward you, friends, or even strangers? Do they seem depressed, anxious etc.?

4.  Cluttered, dirty, or disorganized house
Is the home beginning to look and feel different or unrecognizable?  Was your mother once a stickler for a clean house and now it is more disorganized and dirty?

5.  Confusion and uncertainty when performing familiar tasks
Do your parents seem unsure about how to complete daily chores or tasks such as laundry, vacuuming, or washing dishes?

6.  Wearing disheveled or tattered clothing
Do your parents regularly neglect their appearance? Are their clothes worn or dirty?

7.  Keeping expired groceries
Is food collecting mold on the counter or making the fridge and house smell?  Check the dates on food, including the refrigerator and the cabinets.

8.  Forgetfulness
Are they losing or misplacing keys, wallets, or other important items?

9.  Check the medicine cabinet
Are there full bottles of prescription pills in medicine cabinets?

10. Leaving house or yard maintenance unattended
Are weeds growing uncontrollably? Is trash piling up outside?

11.  Loss of interest in activities or hobbies they once enjoyed
When was the last time they did something they loved? Are they seeing their friends?

12.  Missing important appointments
Are they frequently rescheduling missed appointments or simply not showing up?

13. Weight loss or gain? 
Are they eating much less or consuming only fast food or prepackaged snacks?

14.  Poor personal hygiene
Do they have bad breath or body odor more often?

15.  Trouble getting up from a seated position
Are they struggling to sit or stand? Is their balance steady? Are there unexplained bruises or cuts

16. Unexplained dents or damage on their car
Are they getting into more accidents? In general, are they not paying attention to their car or safety?

If you notice any of these signs, it may be helpful to write down your concerns. Talking with your siblings and other relatives, and coming up with a plan that works for everyone. Once you’ve identified your loved one’s needs and you’re ready to take the next step, we can help you navigate the process. Will they need help at home? 

The aging process looks different for everyone, but taking proactive steps by getting your loved one the care they need can have a positive impact on their overall health and wellness. Perhaps they only require help with household chores and routine errands. Or, maybe they could benefit from the additional companionship that comes home care.

Sometimes recognizing the initial signs is the biggest hurdle, but once you’ve realized a parent needs help, there are resources available to make the next steps as smooth as possible.

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

November 4, 2021

Cost Savings vs Risk - What Type of Home Care is Right For You?

With the costs of healthcare climbing, many older adults find themselves in a vulnerable and worrisome situation when it comes to getting the assistance they need. In an effort to cut costs, some are turning to third-party caregivers for their home care, but do the cost savings outweigh the risks? Experts will say “No”.

In August 2017, Illinois Governor Bruce Rauner signed SB1676 into law, creating Public Act 100-0099, which aims to protect older adults from this very issue. SB1676 is a Home Health Agency Referrals amendment that seeks to protect consumers from unqualified home care referrals and unlicensed third-party caregivers. In short it states:

A hospital licensed under the Hospital Licensing Act, hospital operated under the University of Illinois Hospital Act, facility licensed under the Nursing Home Care Act, or health care provider licensed under any Act of this State that receives funds from the State may not refer a patient or the family of a patient to a home health agency, home nursing agency, or home services agency unless the agency is licensed under the Home Health, Home Services, and Home Nursing Agency Licensing Act.

This bill highlights a growing problem faced by older adults. When your safety or the safety of your loved one is on the line, can you be confident that you've entrusted the right person with your home care?

What are your Risks? 

Individuals who hire unlicensed caregivers expose themselves to the greatest risks. So, it is important that you understand the potential consequences of hiring an individual privately. Not only are you responsible for conducting interviews and criminal background checks, but you will also need to find appropriate backup care in the event that the caregiver calls in sick or fails to show up for their shift. But there are serious financial risks as well:

Liability & Worker’s Comp Insurance: Private caregivers rarely carry their own professional insurance. If a caregiver gets injured while working in the home, the homeowner may be responsible for paying their medical expenses and lost wages until they can return to work.

Bonding: Bonding protects from theft or breakage. Without it, you have limited or no protection. Unfortunately, there are people out there that are looking to take advantage of older adults. May  of this year, a private caregiver was charged with multiple felonies for allegedly stealing from the Barrington senior she was hired to care for, and this wasn’t her first offense. In May 2018, she was charged with aggravated identity theft, unlawful possession of a credit card and theft from a senior living community. How well do you know the individuals you are entrusting with your care?

Taxes: When you or your family does the hiring, they are the employer. As such, they are liable for any Social Security taxes not paid, unemployment compensation not paid, and payroll taxes not withheld. Failure to comply with IRS regulations could result in civil fines of up to $100,000 and possible criminal penalties, including imprisonment for up to five years.

Accountability: Does your private caregiver need to be supervised? Overseen by the Illinois Department of Public Health, is there anyone watching the business. Private caregivers have no one they report to; no one oversees the care they are delivering and if there is an issue no one to follow-up. Again, are you willing to take that risk?

Hiring a private caregiver may seem like a less costly alternative to a private duty agency, however, it carries a far greater risk than most people may realize. Don’t take chances with your safety or the safety of those you serve. Only look to qualified, licensed agencies for home care.

We spend a great deal of time screening the caregiver, interviewing the caregiver, at least 8 hours of training a year for each caregiver. Background checks, finger printing and mandatory drug testing. It’s an extensive process but why would we not take the time and expense to put the best caregiver in your loved ones home.

I know it’s more expensive but it is worth the risk?

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

October 12, 2021

Asking the Right Questions When Searching for Senior Home Care

Missed medications...a decline in the home environment...loneliness - there are many signs on when is a good time to hire some care at home. But how do you know which home care agency to choose? Whether you take a home care recommendation from a friend, check out online reviews, or consult your physician for a referral, there is no substitute for doing your own research. While policies and procedures vary from agency to agency, these are the questions you should be asking every home care provider you interview:

Are you licensed?

Home care licensing requirements vary state to state and it’s important to familiarize yourself with the regulating body for home care in your area. For example, in Illinois, home care licensing is managed through the Illinois Department of Public Health (IDPH.) Note: a home care license is different than a business license, and requires additional oversight. Beware of agencies that operate as ‘registries,’ outsourcing cases to private caregivers to avoid the rules and regulations of a home care license. A reputable agency will take no issue with sharing their licensing information and compliance survey results.

Do your caregivers undergo a full criminal background and reference check?

Caregivers are entrusted with the health and well-being of vulnerable individuals who are unable to care for themselves. Background checks ensure that the individual you hire to care for yourself or your loved one does not have a history of abuse, neglect, fraud, or other convictions. Each state sets its own rules for running background checks on health care workers. So make sure your agency is conducting a criminal search as well as a comprehensive check of employment history and references on all employees.

What type of initial and ongoing training is provided to caregivers?

In most states, there are no education or training requirements for providing non-medical services (light housekeeping, transportation, companionship, meal preparation etc.) If you or your loved one has a specialized need or is facing a chronic condition, like dementia, diabetes, etc. make sure your agency properly trains their staff to address them.

Do you hire caregivers on waivers?

The Health Care Worker Background Check Act [225 ILCS 46], an Illinois State law, prevents many health care employers from hiring an individual who may have access to older adults, their living quarters, or their financial, medical, or personal records, if the individual has certain criminal convictions. However, the Act does allow an employer to hire an individual with a disqualifying conviction as a direct care worker if he or she is granted a Health Care Worker Waiver by the Illinois Department of Public Health. The employee doesn’t have to disclose what the conviction was for, only that they now have a waiver for employment. Note: agencies that work with Medicare/Medicaid may be required to hire caregivers on waivers by the state.

What happens if the caregiver provided is not a good fit?

Making the right match between client and caregiver may not happen on the first try. Make sure your agency has a caregiver roster large enough to accommodate your needs should you require a different caregiver.

What happens of my caregiver is sick or doesn’t show up?

Illness is often unavoidable, and even the best caregivers need to take a sick day every once in a while. Agencies should have a plan in place so they can minimize the interruption to client care in the event that a caregiver calls off.

What if I have a need or concern after-hours?

Home care agencies handle after-hours needs differently. Some utilize an answering service, while others employ a messaging system. Ideally, your agency should provide you with access to a staff member (not a call center) 24/7. After-hours needs are not uncommon. So, be sure the agency’s method for managing them works for you. 

Regardless of which agency you select, always be sure to do your due diligence before starting care. If we can help, please let us know.

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Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

September 27, 2021

Is Home Care Right For You or Your Loved One?

Fall is here and what a beautiful time of year! As the pandemic shifts into a new era and more seniors have thankfully received their vaccinations, more and older adults and their families are drawn to “aging in place” and finding live-in home care to help them make it a reality.

According to most recent statistics from the Institute on Aging, 70% of older adults in the United States will require assistance with dressing, hygiene, medication reminders, light housekeeping and other daily chores. The average number of years someone receives help at home is a little over 3 years, and that can be 4 hours a week, to live-in care. As the nation’s aging population expands to almost 74 million in 2030 (the year the youngest baby boomers reach age 65), that need will grow exponentially.

At the start of the pandemic, families were initially frightened about having a caregiver come into their loved one’s home for a few hours or all day, it was a difficult time for everyone. We are now beginning to find that families recognize the need for their loved ones to have care and their loved ones has been vaccinated and they are less afraid of COVID-19.

What does home care offer? For starters, it allows individuals to remain safe and comfortable in their own homes. They don’t have to give up the place they call home or worry about packing, moving and leaving precious memories behind.

There are many older adults who can benefit from home care. This ranges from someone who is lonely and would like companionship and support at home to individuals with cognitive impairment including dementia and those at the end-stages of life who require assistance with all care needs.

Also an older adult would benefit shorter-term live-in care can be beneficial to those who have had a recent hospitalization or surgery, are recovering at home and need help for a few days to a few weeks. One of our clients’ recently shared with me “my father came home from the hospital and he was in a condition in which we thought he may not make it. This was a very difficult time for us and we did not know what to do. we chose to have a live-in caregiver. My father is now getting up out of bed, eating at the table, laughing, and his caregiver was able to take him out to dinner to celebrate his recovery. Thank you to the home care team

Home Care also provides peace of mind to children who live at a distance from their aging parents and want to know that their parents are being well take care of and are safe at home. As one client puts it, “my family and I have been receiving services for over two years for my mother with Alzheimer’s. Your caregivers have increased her quality of life, which was deteriorating before they started working with us. They are supportive, caring and understand the struggles that my father and family are going through.”

So is this something to be thinking about for your loved one, family member, or friend. The next few blogs I will be writing about care at home, when to decide if that is something you may need? The next few blogs I will writing about home care, when it is a good time to bring care into the home is. What to look for during your holiday visits? What questions to ask the provider? Stay tuned !

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September 8, 2021

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

Massage Techniques for Those Suffering From Dementia

When people think about dementia, they typically think of memory loss. Yet, people with dementia may also experience a decline in all senses: sight, hearing, taste, smell, and touch. And despite a loss of touch, specific massage techniques can reach people with dementia in the most touching of ways.

The decline in the sense of touch can lead to unique safety challenges, preventing the person from perceiving hot and cold. But research has also revealed a bright spot among the losses: A 2018 study out of Switzerland found that people with dementia could still find comfort in the touch of a human hand.  The finding was based on the introduction of hand massage into the regular routine of geriatric patients. The hand massages resulted in a decrease in agitation and stress.

That research could make a big difference for the 6.4 million Americans with Alzheimer’s disease. As that number climbs, there’s a greater need than ever for the power of human touch as a supplement to their care routines.

Massage for memory loss

Licensed massage therapist Carole Feintech, whose practice Heal Better-Feel Better is based in Arlington Heights, travels to the homes of people with dementia. During 30-minute sessions, she uses massage of the hands, feet, and back, while the person remains dressed so they will feel more comfortable and relaxed.

She individualizes the massage by learning some details about the person’s life before the appointment. Talk to the person when  working on them, so they don’t feel so lost, and we have a connection with each other that puts them at ease. She has worked with some of the clients I serve and have served and am very impressed with the outcome. Look her up!

People with memory loss often still remember songs they enjoyed long ago, so sing one of their favorites during the massage. “The music touches them mentally and emotionally, It changes the whole tone of the session, so they’re relaxed and not frightened of me.

Therapist  uses slow, soothing strokes that relieve anxiety and stress, improve sleep, and decrease sundowning — the time at dusk when people with Alzheimer’s may become agitated and aggressive. Additionally, massage therapy has physiological benefits. It improves blood circulation, stimulates the lymphatic system, and helps to lower high blood pressure.

A compassionate approach

Compassionate Touch is  a specific massage technique for people with dementia — is standard for residents in many memory care facilities. The goal is to avoid pharmaceuticals, and Compassionate Touch is a great intervention that does the same thing as medications to control symptoms.

The average Compassionate Touch sessions, which last 10 to 15 minutes, take place three to four times a week. Each resident has an individualized plan depending on their s behavior and comfort level.  

Residents remain seated and fully clothed for the massage, which includes figure-eight strokes in a rhythmic motion on one side of their back and then the other.

Massage techniques used on the feet relax individuals, ease pain, and reduce verbal aggression and repetitive movements such as grinding teeth and tapping on the table, which are expressions of stress and anxiety. Hand massages decrease the frequency and intensity of people’s resistance to grooming, bathing, and dressing, as well as improve their sleep.

And the benefits go both ways. Giving a massage also relaxes the person providing it and strengthens the relationship between the person with dementia and the person caring for them.

Touchpoint for family members

While people with Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia may have lost the words to express themselves and the ability to understand others, the power of the nurturing touch of the human hand remains a way of communicating with them.

Teaching caregivers how to massage their loved one’s hands.  I feel that they benefit more when the massage is done by a family member because it reinforces the bond between them, and caregivers don’t feel so helpless in caring for their loved one..

The basic need for human touch provides a nonverbal way of communicating with people with dementia.

“We’re always hugging babies and children to show them how much we care about them, but as we get older we get less and less of that, but we need it more. Think about that..

Even without learning special techniques, caregivers can show their love by holding their family member’s hand to encourage or comfort them. Caregivers can touch the person gently on the shoulder to catch or hold their attention.

By using the power of touch, the smallest gesture can convey a vastly meaningful message. Massage techniques specifically for people with dementia offer caregivers a way to stay in touch with their loved one’s needs.

Massage, gentle touch, compassionate touch all can be beneficial to decrease anxiety, connect with others and feel more relaxed. Pre-covid I got a massage every 6 weeks like clockwork, it made me feel more relaxed, less stressed in my muscles, and all around well-being. I have not had one in 18 months but decided in September it is time for one!

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August 16, 2021

Written by Laura Shaw deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

Maintaining a Healthy Diet As We Age

Let’s face it: Nutrition needs evolve as we age. And healthy eating is important for healthy aging. Healthy diet is important for any age, but more so as we age…

A healthy diet and lifestyle can help prevent inflammation, obesity, and chronic diseases, such as type 2 diabetes. For older adults, proper food and nutrition, as well as physical activity and healthy social and emotional support, may be able to prevent some hypertension, heart disease, type 2 diabetes, osteoarthritis, and cognitive decline — once thought of as inevitable outcomes of aging.

“As individuals reach later decades of their life, there are notable changes in the body composition,” says Anna Liggett, MD, a geriatrician with Northwestern Medicine in Deerfield. “Bone mass, lean muscle mass, and water content all decrease, while fat mass generally increases. The consequence of these changes in body composition is that you cannot have a one-size-fits-all approach for all adults. You must consider the older adult body different than younger middle-aged adults.”

Even taste buds decrease in number and function, meaning older adults taste and smell things differently than younger adults do. This can make food choices challenging, but remember: A healthy aging diet is associated with independence, well-being, and safe living in older adults.

A healthy aging diet

“We have different nutrient needs as we age. At 60 and older, there should be a greater focus on protein intake throughout the day, slightly greater amounts of protein recommended, plus more emphasis on immune building. Protein needs in older adults range from 1.0 to 1.2 grams per kilogram of body weight, depending upon the muscle demands for protein in an individual.

It’s not enough just to eat more protein, you also have to create the demand for protein through daily physical activity that includes strength and muscle building movement. Balance and strength training is so very important and my trainer has told me to do this four times a week.

A Healthy Aging Diet Index for people over 65 years old — which includes recommendations for fiber, unsaturated fatty acids, protein, added sugar, folic acid, calcium, vitamin D, and fluids. The goal: to help people enjoy a functional life devoid of chronic diseases.

“In healthy adults as the body ages, there is a decrease in metabolic rate — the speed and efficiency that your body process nutrients — as well as a decrease in hormone production, decreased immune response, an increased rate of insulin resistance, and the body produces less stomach acid,

Older adults may also need other vitamin supplementation, such as vitamin D. “Decreased synthesis of vitamin D through the skin [in older adults] results in an increased need for a supplemental source, Getting outdoors every day is important for health and well-being, but getting adequate vitamin D from the sun all year round is not possible so it’s important to consume enough vitamin D through your diet and supplements.

“Fruits and vegetables, which are high in antioxidants such as vitamins A, C, and E, as well as selenium and carotenoids, are powerful players for health in older adults. Aging is associated with many physiological changes, including a decrease in appetite.

“If an older adult eats only one or two meals a day and fills up quickly, they may not meet an adequate nutritional intake need for that day, leading to weight loss. In this scenario, it is important to stress the concept of grazing throughout the day to ensure adequate caloric intake.

For older adults who are underweight, Liggett suggests getting in adequate calories even through sweets and empty-calorie foods because “the risk of being underweight far outweighs the risk of consuming low-nutritional-value food.”

The aging mind

Nutrition plays a key role in keeping the aging brain sharp. “One of the most common questions I get from older adults is for advice to protect against dementia and cognitive decline From leafy greens to berries to fatty fish, older adults should plan to eat plenty of produce, whole grains, and healthy fats like nuts, seeds, avocado, olive oil, and seafood.

Meal planning for older adults

To make meal planning and prep easy, start by considering your food preferences. Next, plan single sheet pan meals (for easy prep and clean up), and balance meals with at least three food groups.

Try to incorporate fresh, frozen, and canned foods each week to help with variety, ease of preparation, and managing budgets without sacrificing nutrition. A double portion of a healthy snack can turn into a small meal, too.

The bottom line: Nutrient needs change in the later decades of life. Any care plan for older adults needs to include optimal nutrition with an emphasis on fruits, vegetables, protein, healthy fats, and fluids to optimize health and prevent chronic diseases.

If you don’t feel like cooking, planning or shopping, please give Norwood Seniors Network a call and we can help you out!

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July 14, 2021

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

Easy Home Exercise Tips

It can be so frustrating when we notice a decline in our physical ability as we age. Maybe it used to be easy to put the bag of dog food in your shopping cart, and now it’s difficult. Perhaps we trip more often as we walk, or the stairs are making us get out of breath. It’s easy to chalk it up to getting older, but there’s a lot we can do to change the trajectory of our health. Incorporating a few simple exercises into our daily routine can make a world of difference in how we feel and what we’re able to do. Better yet, all of these can be done at home. You don’t need special clothing, and any flat shoes (or bare feet!) will work. 

Perform a few reps when you get out of bed in the morning, during a commercial break, or when you get up to move to another room in the house, Fitness experts advocate doing these foundational exercises every single day, Why? They improve strength and balance, allowing older adults to stay independent longer. Talk to your doctor about any exercise routine if you have injuries or balance issues.

Chair Stand

Often, the single most important skill for continuing to live on your own is the ability to get off a chair or toilet. “Standing up from a chair or other surface without using your hands is a good exercise for older adults to perform to maintain good health, fitness, and mobility,” Phelps says. 

Start by sitting on a sturdy chair with feet hip-width apart. Hold your arms straight out in front of you with fingertips extended. Pressing through your feet while holding your core steady, rise to a standing position. Then, return to a sit while continuing to hold your arms out in front and without moving your feet. That is one repetition. Work up to three sets of 10 reps per day. To increase difficulty, remove the chair while keeping movement the same. These full bodyweight squats should be performed with your chest up and heels on the floor.

Farmer’s Walk

Walking is an important activity at any age; this variation adds some weight in your hands to improve upper body and core strength at the same time. If you don’t have weights, you can use cans of food. 

Start with feet hip-width apart, palms facing toward you with a light weight in each hand. Walk forward, keeping your spine straight by imagining a string at the top of your head pulling you upward. Walk for 30 seconds or as long as you can. To increase difficulty, use heavier weights in each hand and extend how long you walk.

Tandem Stance

Stand up straight with your feet together. You may need to hold a sturdy chair, counter or a wall for balance, especially when you’re starting out. Imagine you are on a balance beam, and pick up one foot, placing your heel against the toes of your other foot. Stay in this position, heel to toe, for 30 seconds or as long as you can. Then switch feet and repeat. To increase difficulty, don’t use another object for balance. If you master that, add weights in each hand while you perform the exercise. Remember to use your core and stand tall.

Stand On One Leg

This exercise will help you to walk and climb stairs, as well as finding and helping with any imbalance between your right and left sides. 

Stand tall with your feet together to start. Standing straight and holding a sturdy chair, counter or a wall for balance, lift one foot just off the floor so no part of it is touching. Imagine a string pulling your head and body upward as you avoid leaning to one side. Stay in this position for 30 seconds, then repeat on the other side. To increase difficulty, lift your foot higher off the floor until your knee is in front of the hip. You can make it harder still by straightening your leg and holding it out in front of you, and by bending it and holding to the side or behind you. 

 So, take some time today to work in these exercises and feel better about aging, since we are all in the race!

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June 29, 2021

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

Reaching out to our loved ones, parents etc, can be a difficult task, but asking a few subtle questions can help you gauge the physical and mental health of your parent and determine if it may be time for some help at home or perhaps a facility. Consider asking these five questions at your next visit :

Question #1

How was breakfast?

An apple a day may keep the doctor away, but that isn’t all they should be eating. Along with taking their medications as prescribed, they should maintain a healthy lifestyle by eating at least two meals day and staying active. Asking this simple question about their day will help them with their memory and reassure you about their daily routines. This is a good time to also look in the refrigerator to see what groceries are being purchased, what is out of date and what are they eating.

Question #2

Did you get a haircut?

Keeping an eye on their grooming and appearance can be an indicator if they are not taking care of themselves. Do they show the following signs?

•         Unwashed hair
•         A strong odor
•         Stains on their clothing
•         Repetitive clothing each visit

If you notice a new or fresh look, it’s a good sign that they are keeping up with their daily appearance. This can also be a good indicator if they are keeping up with their finances. Check any mail, are bills getting paid, is there unopened mail?

Question #3

What have you been up to lately?

Depression can be a common issue for seniors. They might want to stay at home, where they’re comfortable, and keep to themselves. Check their calendar and ask them how their friends are doing. Did they win at BINGO? What else are they doing to stay social?

Question #4

I saw that your lawn was mowed. Did the neighbor kid do that for you?

The answer to this question can mean one of two things: 1) they are maintaining their home themselves or 2) they have someone nearby to help if they need it. If the answer was the former, make sure to ask a neighbor or friend to check-in on your loved one, whenever you’re not able to.

Question #5

How is your car treating you?

As our loved ones get older, it may become more difficult for them to see while driving, especially at night. If they complain about seeing, hearing or anything that may impair their ability to drive, it may no longer be safe for them to get behind the wheel.

If your loved ones are struggling with daily tasks or their health and safety are at risk, it might be time to consider help at home. If you would like further information please don’t hesitate to reach out to us.

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June 1, 2021

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

I took this picture on the way into my local Jewel the other day. I saw this, and lots of things crossed my mind. So I took a picture and I knew I would blog about this, however I wasn’t expecting the outcome of what happened.

I am known to get involved in situations that I am not sure anyone would get involved. I knew there was a story. I went into Jewel to pick up a few things for work for one of our staff’s 10 year work anniversary. How great was that. While picking up items on my list, I was diligently looking for someone that may belong to this car. I am not sure what I was looking for, but I knew I would find the owner, or I was hoping to at least. 

While walking out of the Jewel, I saw lights going on and off and a beeping sound. Someone was looking for this car; we have all done that when we have “lost” our car. I put my groceries in the car and waited. I then see a frail older gentleman using his remote to find his car. He was coming from the corner gas station, not the Jewel and when he got in, he sat in the passenger’s seat. I knew then he may need help.

I go up to the car and bang on the window he opens the door and I asked do you need any help. He said “I am not sure what am I doing here, do you know”? I told him, I didn’t but I would help him figure it out. He was shaking and seemed very confused and upset. He was slurring his words, and had a hard time with almost anything. I asked him a few questions, where did he live? What was his name? He couldn’t answer and I didn’t want to agitate him, or make him feel more upset.

I called the non-emergency phone number, explained the situation and who I was, the dispatcher forwarded me to 911. I explained what was happening as I felt this man was having a medical episode. I remained very calm and got the gentleman some water, which was in my car, and the ambulance, police and fire truck were pulling in. Poor, man he was very scared.

The police were asking me questions, and the paramedics were assisting “Tom”. He gave me his wallet, I saw a piece a paper that read, if you are helping me, please call my daughter. Her name and number were on the small, crinkled sheet of paper.

I called his daughter, thank god she answered. I explained the situation, she seemed agitated with me, but I am sure she was scared. I told her the ambulance and police were here and they are taking him to the hospital, she said I don’t want him to go, I said they are sending him, possible stroke.

She said she was on her way to the Jewel. She had only lived a few blocks away. The paramedic took Tom and I waited for the daughter. She pulled up; one of the police was still there filling out some paperwork. The daughter was upset and said to me, this isn’t the first time this has happened, and I told her it needs to be the last as your dad was very upset and confused and could have gotten very hurt. 

We chatted a few minutes, told her what I did for a living and I just want her dad to be safe. The car needs to be taken away, as Tom couldn’t remember how to drive it, nor did he remember where he lived. A scary time for everyone. 

I gave her my card and told her to call if she needed anything. Yesterday, she called appreciative of me helping, and to discuss some options. Her dad did have a stroke, and currently in rehab as he is weak, can’t speak much and still very confused. I assume he has been confused for a very long time and the family didn’t want to admit his decline.

The reason why I am writing about this experience I had is for several reasons..

1.   Don’t be afraid to get involved and if you can’t call 911, or in this case get the store manager.

2. If you are a family member, have these hard conversations when they happen and come up with a plan prior to an emergency.

3. Keep talking about the future, where are grandma and grandpa going, what help can we put in place now.

4. Should the person continue to drive? ( This is one of the hardest situations to broach)

5. Get some resources ahead of time, go talk to an expert on senior care, meet with family to develop a plan, etc. Be proactive and not reactive.



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May 10, 2021

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

Some Tips for Mental Health Awareness Month

May is Mental Health Awareness month, and with that in mind, we’re sharing some wellness tips. It’s so imperative that you take care of yourself and you find time in the day to care for you. Even doing one or two of these tips will make you feel better emotionally and physically and in a better mental health space!

Speak Up

It’s not easy to share personal challenges with others, but it’s an important first step in getting help. Talk to someone you trust or reach out to an organization specializing in providing mental health and wellness services. The more we talk about mental health, the more we can erase the stigma.

Show Support

If someone shares their struggles with you, acknowledge their pain and listen without judgment. When individuals share what they’re going through, they generally don’t expect you to problem solve, but instead need someone to listen and show support. Showing support can be as simple as saying “It must be hard for you” or “I’m here to listen if you want to talk about how you feel.”

Stress Management Tips

Work can sometimes feel busy and overwhelming. Taking time out of your day to unwind—even if it’s just for a few minutes—is essential for our well-being. Add some of these quick tips to your stress management toolkit to help you unwind and make your day more manageable.

Start Your Day with Gratitude

Spending a few minutes each morning to think about what you’re grateful for is sure to get your day off to a positive start. Before you open your email or scroll social media, write down a few things you’re thankful for.

Take a Walk

It’s good to step away and get some fresh air. Taking a break and going for a walk can do wonders to reboot your body and mind, leaving you ready to tackle the rest of your day!

Stretch

Some light stretching and movement can increase blood flow and help you clear your mind. Stand at your desk or look up stretching sequences that can be done while sitting.

Curate a Playlist

Music can be the ultimate mood-booster. Create a playlist that helps you feel positive, upbeat, or calm. Keep a few playlists on hand to match your needs at the moment.

Practice Mindfulness

Simply taking a few minutes to close your eyes, take some deep breaths, and quiet your mind might be all you need to reduce stress throughout the day.

Go to Bed Earlier

Sleep is essential to recharge the body and mind, but often we neglect its importance. If you’re feeling some extra stress, try getting an additional hour or even 30 minutes of sleep.

Do Something Different

Carve out some time in your morning to walk to a coffee shop or pick a new restaurant you’ve wanted to try at lunchtime. Whether it’s a slight change in your daily routine or something more substantial like learning a new skill, doing something different is a great way to re-energize your senses!

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April 6, 2021

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

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One year later, and what a year it has been. A lot of my blogs this year has touched the subject of the pandemic, the emotional side, the loss of lives, mental health, loss of jobs, a year like no other. I still can’t  wrap my head around it all.

Last night I was on the phone with my girlfriend who lost her job during the pandemic, she was a regional manager at a very high end hotel chain and has not been employed fully since May, 2020. She however, is working and told me she has not worked this hard in years, she has become a caregiver.

Caregivers are heroes, and this year they have shined so brightly, in our business. It is a tough job. My friend has known me for over 30 years and she confided in me last night “I didn’t realize how stressful and overwhelming caregiving can be. I need a break.”

My friend is not a professional caregiver or working for a homecare company, she is not caring for persons she doesn’t know.  She is caring for her father and her mother-in-law. She is exhausted. She is also home schooling her teenage son, and her husband of 24 years is working from home, and her college aged son is home as well. Life is hectic and at times crowded. Even though her parents and in-laws are not living with her, she is constantly at their homes, talking on the phone with them, dropping off groceries, or taking them to various appointments. She is tired and needs a break!

I said to her, why you don’t just hire a caregiver, I know someone who can direct you in this. We laughed as I have been in the caregiving business for as long as I have known her.

Can you relate? Are you working harder than ever before? Do you need a break from taking care of everyone and everything? Do you need to have someone help you? We are all experiencing covid-19 overload.

My friend and I discussed some options and she was hung up on the fact, she was not fully employed and she shouldn’t have to pay for services. I get that but honestly we can all use some help, a little respite and maybe your family can use a break as well.

We have a solution! We can care for your mom and dad, maybe one day or 2 days a week. We can deliver hot and cold meals each day, (within the mileage requirement), set up a life alert system to give you peace of mind if they fall, or needed immediate 911 help, or transportation to get to that important doctor’s appointment. You don’t have to do everything, we can provide some assistance.

During these unpresented times, even though it’s getting a little better, we are all overwhelmed, at times exhausted and can use some assistance to take the burdens off you, to give you some peace and some much needed time. Please call us, if we can help. We are all in this together.

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March 12, 2021

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

Spring Cleaning VS Spring Decluttering

Tis the season for spring cleaning. 0r is it??? No doubt, all over the internet and in countless magazines, there are going to be numerous articles published in the next month about how to spring clean your home. Spring is a natural time of year to deep clean your home. And I’m all for it. I think you should do it and if you can’t do it alone, recruit family, friends, caregivers. Spring is a time of new and I always feel so good when I jump into decluttering, cleaning a starting anew in the spring.However, before you jump into your spring cleaning, and every time you stumble upon an article about spring cleaning, I want you to remember one phrase: Spring decluttering is better than spring cleaning.

In fact, the best spring cleaning begins with spring decluttering. Because the less you own, the easier it is to clean. I began this weekend in my home. My son has been out of the country this past 7 months and will be for a couple more, I decided to get this project done before he gets home and then together we will tackle his room and his music room. (A room with many instruments, books, etc. house, and at times it gets messy and doesn’t need to be.) Spring decluttering results in a home that is easier to clean every week of every season. And owning less result in a home that is calmer and more peaceful every day. Consider just three rooms as an example:

Living Room

One of the first rooms we decluttered on our minimizing journey was the living room—including the decorations. We had shelves and shelves of them. I remember vividly removing the decorations that were no longer important to us, leaving just a few that tells your story.

When I was finished, I decided to dust the shelves and immediately noticed how much easier it was to dust the shelves with fewer items on them. Go figure. I don’t know why this had never occurred to me. Fewer things to move meant the room was easier to clean.

Bedroom

Another great example is my bedroom. It’s not cluttered or messy but I have things in my bedroom that don’t need to be there, or I have not used in years. So out went many books I have read or won’t pick up again. I also had so much jewelry pieces I will never wear again, some went to family and the others I will donate.

The following evening when I went to bed, it felt clean, not cluttered it was my place of peace, sleep and my sanctuary. I just wish I could sleep more!

Closets

A third example is the closet. While I didn’t begin my decluttering journey in the closet, I got rid of about 25% of my items in my closet, clothes, and shoes accessories. My closet immediately became stream-lined, spacious, and easier to keep organized. And a pleasure to go into each day to find my outfits for the week.

But more than that, the positive affects spilled over into other rooms as well. Returning clothes at the end of the day became easier so there were fewer clothes left out in the bedroom. Putting clothes away after the laundry cycle became less burdensome. As was returning accessories: shoes, belts, jewelry, even coats and gloves.

The less we owned, the easier it was to clean. Spring cleaning should always begin with spring decluttering. Because spring decluttering makes spring cleaning infinitely easier. Here are a few quick tips to get you started:

1. Start in your easiest spaces.

Don’t begin to declutter your attic, home office, or sentimental collections first.

2. Begin in your lived-in areas.

Again, avoid the attic and the basement when getting started. You can spend hours decluttering, shut the

door, and never see the room again for weeks. But if you declutter your living room, you’ll notice the calm every time you sit to watch television. If you clean you’re lived in space, you immediately feel calm, peace and you are in it every day.

3. Physically touch every item in your home.

When you hold an item in your hand, you are forced to make a decision about it. Every item you touch can be relocated, removed, or returned. Put as many things as you can in the remove pile.

4. Ask yourself four questions for every item you touch:

• Do I need it?
• What would I use if I didn’t own it?
• Why do I have it?
• Does it bring me joy or enhance my life or self?

5. Donate, donate, and donate.

As you begin removing clutter from your home Trying to sell all your clutter only adds stress and burden to an already difficult process. Expensive items (or if you desperately need the money) are the only exceptions.

For the most part, find a local charity that you believe in and donate your things there.

6. Find inspiration to keep going.

Find as much motivation and inspiration as you need. The reality is this process is going to take more than one day, or even one weekend. Either way, the more you are reminded that owning less is better, the easier it will be to declutter your stuff. And like I said before, spring decluttering is always better than spring cleaning.

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March 4, 2021

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

The Importance of Staying Connected In Disconnected Times

It’s been about one year that we have been in this pandemic. There were lockdowns, masks regulations, remote learning, remote working, isolation, losing jobs, homes, sickness and deaths; it has been a scary, horrible and at times unbearable. But last night I was on a zoom call with some very good high school friends and the first hour we caught up on life, relationships, grandchildren, my brother’s sudden death only 4 weeks ago, jobs and just life. And then I said to my 7 dear girlfriends I am going to pose a question, what was your biggest gift, a positive you got out of this past year…

I can’t tell you how everyone’s facial expressions were not pleased with this question, as it’s a hard question and at times difficult to see the roses through the thorns. But I have always been a positive person, people call me Pollyanna at times, it’s not that I am always positive, but some things in life we have no control, my attitude is something I can control, and historically when things get bad, I become more positive, accepting and grateful. As my wonderful mother says to us all the time “it can always be worse” and if these past 14 months didn’t teach us this, I don’t know what would have?

A few of my friends mentioned they became grandparents this year, and one of my friend’s potty trained her own son, and yes we are all the same age. One of the ladies said how she was so happy her children came home in March 2020, and after Christmas they left back to school in just the perfect time. We all laughed and most of us could so relate. My son is in France, so there have been no visits, plenty of face time calls, and lots of texts but no visits. But he is happy and healthy and for that I am grateful.

I said see, this isn’t so hard there were good moments in this year. We can look at this year and realize how much we have, and question how much do we really need. Another life lesson! One of my girlfriends has had a very stressful and “big” job. She has been there since 1990, 30 years. She defined herself in her job, she had been married for a short time and her ex-husband was tired of her being married to her company and not to him. She decided not to have children and moved around for this company, about 10 times. This year, during the pandemic she resigned. Not because of layoffs, or the economy, she wasn’t asked to resign; she just resigned giving them 2 months’ notice.

She told us on the zoom call that was her biggest gift she got in 2020. She mentioned how she was able to get a new job, in a whole different industry. She had little experience but was someone who could be a big asset to this new company. She was nervous, as change is hard for her, whereas I thrive on change and am excited to change it up at times. She has been in this new role since August. She loves it, she loves the job, the people, but most of all she loves the opportunity to stay in one place, there will be no more moves, she will travel once a month, not once a week, and most important she is happy. She mentioned she was so involved in her work, she didn’t realize how involved till the traveling stopped, the work politics were less and she wasn’t sure what to do. Then she decided to connect; as I on a previous call mentioned how I loved reconnecting. She began to connect  with family, friends, maybe not in person, but zoom and the phone was just fine and loved when outside visits took place,  she had not made time for anyone in years. She always had to “work”, missing holidays, girl weekends, dating, her family and friends and she missed herself. Of the 8 of us, she went through a major transition, and we are all so excited for her and feel this gift will keep giving in years to come.

Yes, Covid-19 put a cloud over all of us.

But I ask you to find the positive, the gift, and the unexpected that happened in 2020. So on your next zoom call, family dinner, date night, ask that question, what was your biggest gift you got out of 2020? I wish you a healthy, happy and connected spring!

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January 6, 2021

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

Tips for a Great 2021

After a year full of challenges, you’re likely excited to start fresh in a new year that will ( hopefully) feel a lot less chaotic than 2020. Are you a person who makes resolutions each year? Do you follow them? Have you ever stuck with a resolution for the entire year? Do you have “core words” you follow and you make life changes just not temporary? So much pressure on the New Year’s traditions and with the year we had, most people just want to have it be quiet and maybe be able to see their loved ones more this year.

I wanted this blog to be positive and I decided to share some of the affirmations I find helpful for me. I have a few listed in my office and in my closet. Two places I frequent at least daily. What is an affirmation it is a simple positive statement declaring a goal or hope. They help to surround you with positive energy and give your life purpose and direction. At the very least putting positive energy and optimism out there, it can’t hurt so let’s begin 2021 right!

1.  I choose to find happiness each day of this year

2. I will embrace change this year!

3. Each day I will find something to love in 2021

4. I feel healthy and excited about my life

5. I will not be afraid in 2021

6. I will embrace calm and peace in my life

7. Each day in 2021 I will find a reason to smile

These are my top 7 for this year. What about you? What do you do to start out the New Year? What affirmations help you focus on what matters most? I would love to know what will make you have a peaceful, calm and amazing 2021! Happy New Year!!

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December 9, 2020

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

Connecting With Loved Ones When We Can't Be Together

Well, here we are in December, one part of me is always like “where did time go” and other times like most of us, I think 2020, please be over!! But it is the holiday season and some of us will be celebrating Christmas, Hanukkah, or other family traditions. And during this time, our holidays will look as different as mine did this past Thanksgiving and will again on Christmas. Our usual 40-50 person Thanksgiving celebration was 3 people. My son who is living 4400 miles away is not able to travel back and forth, so we spent 2 hours on a face time call, discussing the amazing meals he was cooking, Big Ten football, his teaching experience he is having and had lots of laughs! I had no complaints I was grateful to be able to talk with him.

 Much different of a day, but still the same lovely Thanksgiving , we did a 38 person Zoom Call, we did our annual family Turkey Trot, albeit virtually and alone or with one other person. There was no family pie making day, or Black Friday Shopping didn’t exist in this year. Yes it was different, but it still was with my two people I love very much, and I got to see the others on the screen and I was thrilled to be able to see their beautiful and healthy selves.

When my friend asked me “how was your Thanksgiving”, I replied without hesitation it was good, it was different but truly did not feel as I missed out of anything. I got to share a delicious meal with loved ones, I got to see my family and son remotely, and I texted and spoke too many friends, family and co-workers. I am not sure I have ever been able to connect with so many people. It truly was amazing. I feel I am always grateful for my health, family and friends, and what I have. But this year, it was abundantly clear that my alternate Thanksgiving has been a blessing. This is a difficult time, that is clear but I found if you find the simple pleasures in your life, it lessens the sadness , and it brings you some peace and hopefully joy in this holiday season.

So as we head into the throws of the December holidays, take time to embrace the simple. The smell of your tree, hanging your favorite ornament, or baking your favorite cookie. If mid-night mass, or lighting the candle on your family menorah is one of your favorite memories cherish that and focus on the positive. It’s not always easy and holidays are tough for a lot of people, and this year it may be magnified but be open to the wonder of it and find the magic in the moments.



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November 4, 2020

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

Some Thoughts for November (National Gratitude Month)

It’s been a rough year- for everyone…

Wherever you live in the world, you have encountered a global pandemic, social isolation, financial hardship, and continued civil unrest. Whether you or not you, has been personally affected by any of these factors, you almost certainly know someone who has….

According to the CDC:

• 40% of people have experienced a mental or behavioral health condition related to the coronavirus epidemic.

• 1 in 4 people have experienced symptoms of depression, 4 times higher than previous years.

• 13.3 % of Americans have begun or increased substance use to cope with the stress related to the epidemic.

Our mental health has suffered so much in 2020! Most times I can’t even wrap my head around this. So far that reason, I have decided to take part in the month of November, month of gratitude. No matter where you live, how the pandemic is affecting your life, no matter how the elections turn out, you can be on the right road to a healthier mental well-being.

We can’t wait for the “better days” we need to find the gratefulness immediately. We need to turn this ship around and move ahead. For me practicing gratitude is a way of life, but I decided this past weekend to take it one step closer and be present in my gratitude and feel better about the world we are in.

So what are the benefits on Gratitude...

• Gratitude reduces stress and makes us more resilient.

• Gratitude helps us feel more positive emotions.

• Gratitude improves our self-esteem

• Gratitude decreases the symptoms of depression.

• Gratitude helps us sleep better

• Gratitude enhances optimism

• Gratitude can even help lower blood pressure, stop smoking, or lose weight.

Given all the mental and physical benefits of gratitude, how do we become more intentional in practicing more of it. There are many plans and ideas to spur gratitude this coming month. It is, after all, it is National Gratitude Month.   

You could:

• Start a Gratitude Journal

• Use an app: Grateful

• Commit to increased thankfulness during prayer or meditation this month

• Start a new NOVEMBER tradition with your family or friends.

For me, I downloaded the app and will be writing down not only what I am grateful for, but also an action attached to some of my entries. For example I will be volunteering as a Salvation Bell Ringer, I will be checking on those friends and families who are not getting out at all, and I will be more committed to doing yoga and meditation for me!

Any of these ideas above would be helpful, but for you maybe a different approach may work better for you. One important key to remember is that the benefits are most experiences when we intentionally choose to practice it regardless of our circumstance, rather than waiting for a better time. Now is the time.

No matter what battle you may be facing, there is always, something to be thankful for. And for me the sooner I get started recognizing those good things, the sooner we’ll discover even more.

May you and your family have a very Happy and safe Thanksgiving and I am grateful to be able to connect with you!

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October 14, 2020

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

Life Lessons During a Pandemic

While this pandemic is turning out to be a very confusing and difficult time for many people, it is undoubtedly giving humanity an incredibly rare opportunity to learn some challenging lessons. I believe these lessons will trigger a much-needed change of perspective for how we do things on this planet and will hopefully enable us to turn over a new leaf. I know that I have learned quite a few lessons and definitely have appreciated the life I have even more.

For so long it felt that we had been living in a way that went against everything that is natural and sacred. It’s as if we were all part of this machine that kept on chugging along, but no one could find the stop button. Well, that stop button has arrived and it’s not like anything we could have ever imagined.

Over the last several months we have seen a massive change in our priorities, and the economy has echoed this to a great degree. Sales of food and health products have gone through the roof, while sales of clothes, makeup, cars, etc., (you know, the stuff we don’t really need but think we need to attain some kind of happiness) has plummeted. I know I have been amazed in what I thought I needed (another pair of black shoes, a new sweater, even lipstick as my mouth is covered by a mask) and I have been fine not purchasing these items.

I recently found myself looking at pictures I had taken a couple months ago of me and my family our and about and me and my son in France and Italy just last year, and suddenly this strange thought came to my mind: In some way, life will never be the same again.

I think most of us are wondering what the future will hold and how this pandemic will change the way we do things, but I feel there is no way to escape the change in perspective that it will bring.

This is our silver lining, and it will hopefully allow us to look back on this time and feel there were some benefits.

Here are a few valuable lessons I think we will learn from this.

1. The power of stillness.

Our lives were put on pause, many were forced to work from home, and we can longer travel unless necessary. With this, we were given the power of stillness and the opportunity to unapologetically slow down. There is no other situation other than an outbreak of a virus where our world would come to such a pause. This will most likely be an opportunity that we never get again (and ironically, we are all hoping we won’t ever get again). As such, now more than ever—for those who are still under lockdown—this is the time to go within and be still with yourself. Heal, remove emotional blockages, meditate, and practice yoga. Take this opportunity to do the inner work that you previously had no time for. If ever there was time for personal transformation, it’s now. And as the lockdowns began to lift I was still seeing the value in living a quieter and more peaceful life.

2. Friends and family mean everything.

Probably the most difficult part of this journey for most people is being separated from their friends, family, and maybe even a romantic partner. I have not seen my sister, who lives in South Carolina since January. She usually comes to visit once a month and I would have seen her two times at her place. I have not hugged my mother since late February, this is crazy to me.

I once heard someone say that “connection is something that all humans need, but we are just not very good at it.” Who here feels that maybe they took human interaction for granted before this? I will raise my hand to that. Connection is something that is so critical for our emotional and mental well-being, yet it something we often take for granted. I can say without hesitation I will never take connection for granted again and will continue to foster that connection, whether it be miles away, states away, or 6 feet away, connection is a powerful and I so miss it.

After this is over, I think people will reach out to each other like never before and everyone will be so overjoyed to see their loved ones again. And just maybe we might be a little bolder and share our smiles and greetings with those we don’t even know. And maybe we will fight fewer battles and love and accept without exception.

3. Material goods mean nothing.

As I have already mentioned, this pandemic has forced us to completely rearrange our priorities, and I can’t help but feel this is a good thing. What good are material things when your health, safety, and access to food are jeopardized? They mean zero at times like this, which I think just helps us put into perspective exactly what we should be prioritizing in our lives.

Since realizing this virus was going to be something that was very serious, I have barely bought anything that isn’t absolutely essential. And of course, this doesn’t mean that I am done with buying beautiful clothes or things to make my life more enjoyable, but it has cast a light on how little I actually need and what truly makes me happy. This lesson continues to resonate and makes me realize what a minimalist I can be. 

4. Our health is gold.

Health is something we so easily take for granted until it is at risk. The possibility of our health taking a downturn has made many of us pay more attention to our nutrition intake and cleanliness. Some of us have even been taking preventative health measures and steps to boost our immune system.

If we have a working body with no serious physical ailments, we should be beyond grateful! My goal during this time was not to gain the Covid-19 and I have actually lost some weight and continue to work on that and more than ever will try to become the healthiest version of myself.

5. Essential workers are heroes.

Every good story needs its hero, and in the story that is playing out on our planet right now, our heroes are of course key workers—healthcare workers, delivery drivers, bus and train drivers, and those who work in the supermarkets and food distribution. These are the people who are keeping everything going and right now risking their health and safety every day to do it. The company I work for has hundreds of heroes and have shown up each and every day and took care of those who need a little help. This has been such a humbling time and I am overwhelmed at times thinking about all those heroes.

In the past, so many of these professions were deemed as jobs that require little skill or don’t deserve much pay, but right now there is no saying what we would do without these people. I hope in the future these professions shall be seen with high esteem, working on the front lines and will be remembered. If this pandemic is teaching us one thing, it is not to take anyone or anything for granted.

I think everyone is wondering what exactly will come out of this crisis and whether we will really change our ways. Will we learn the lessons or go back to the way we were before—our unhealthy ‘normality’? This is yet to be seen. However, as individuals we can make our own choices, and it is our individual choice that will make all the difference. I know I will continue on this ride and make the necessary changes, will you?

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September 15, 2020

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

How to Reduce Your Risk of Falling

Growing older has its ups and downs. When you are feeling good, you may think you can conquer the world, just like in your younger years. You may even take risks that you shouldn’t be taking anymore. It’s true, you can stay young at heart and mind, but it’s important to recognize the body’s limitations as you age. Whether it’s a trip to the grocery store or a routine task like taking a shower, you must take care not to slip and fall.

We offer a variety of ways to increase your strength and decrease the chances of a slip and fall accident. You can even implement your own changes to reduce the risk of falling by taking these proactive steps. 

There are many steps you can take to reduce your chances of falling. They fall into two main categories. Small changes can bring lasting results, so choose today to protect you from injury. It cannot be stressed enough. Your health is your biggest weapon against the effects of aging. Here are some key areas to focus on:

• Nutrition: You can start by keeping up your strength by consuming nutritious meals that include loads of vegetables and fruits. Avoid skipping meals as it can cause weakness and dizziness.

• Exercise: You are never too old to begin an exercise routine. Before you jump into a fitness activity with both feet, discuss your plans with your doctor. Then choose physical activities that build your strength and maintain your flexibility and balance. 

• Medication: Talk to your physician about the prescription drugs you are taking. Ask about their side effects and if they may cause your balance to go off or make you sleepy or dizzy. Discuss the possibilities of adding vitamin supplements to strengthen your bones and overall immune system.

• Safety Aids: As the body ages, you will need to rely on additional aids like canes, walkers, hearing aids, glasses, and appropriate footwear. Don’t be embarrassed. Your safety is much more important than your appearance, so be sure to use assistive devices and tools that help you move. Many of us owe this equipment but don’t always uses it. 

Another area to spend some extra time on is your home. Many accidents happen in the house, so why not make it the safest place you can be?

• Declutter: Not only do extra stacks of papers and knickknacks affect your mental health, but it can also harm your physical health. Now is a great time to remove items that you don’t need or want and free up space in your home. You’ll reduce your chances of injuring yourself by decluttering spaces. 

• Rearrange: Step back and take a look at your rooms. Do you have an easy path to the door, kitchen, or phone? Would you trip over cords or throw rugs if you hurried to the front door or bathroom? Can you reach all your cooking utensils without the aid of a step-stool? The answer to these questions indicates the type of actions you need to take. Don’t be afraid to move furniture around – with help, of course – to open up space and make it much easier to maneuver.

Life may have some ups and downs, but that doesn’t mean it has to be you landing on the ground! Instead, take control of your life, strengthen your body, and remove tripping and slipping hazards in your home. 

If you have any questions or need additional assistance please reach out to us, we are happy to help!



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August 28, 2020

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

When Is the Right Time to Talk To a Senior Loved One About Driving?

Late last night, my phone went off. You know the feeling when your phone goes off late, it’s never good. When I was in college, a long time ago, before cell phone and texts, getting a late phone call usually was fun, but as I have become a mother, and having older parents and family members late night calls are no good.

I saw it was my friend, Catherine. I first thought something happened when she was dropping her last child to college; it had been an emotional time for her. I picked up the phone as if I had been awake for hours, and said Hi, how are you? I can hear the sniffles in the phone and she needed a few seconds to get herself together. I got out of bed and turned on the light, and began to really wake up. I told her to take her time and I am here. She said, to me it happened and I don’t know how to handle this, I wasn’t sure what she had been talking about, what happened I said.

She said, my dad, and with a pause she said, took the car and had an accident and couldn’t remember his name or where he lived when the police came. I asked her “if everyone all right,” - I have become my mother. She said he was okay, and the person he hit, was fine but had some significant damage to his car. I said to myself, that is why we have insurance, again my mother’s words. She then said to me, “you were right, I should have taken his license away much earlier”. My friend, Catherine is one of hundreds of people I have had this conversation with. One of the hardest topics to discuss when your parent(s) are aging, taking away the car.

Catherine’s dad is 86, but age alone is not a reason to take away a person’s driving privileges. However, seniors are at risk for numerous health conditions that impact driving. For example, age-related changes can affect memory and decision-making processes, the ability to see and hear clearly, reaction times and other skills and abilities that are required for the safe operation of a vehicle.

It can be very difficult to communicate your concerns to an older person who doesn’t want to stop driving or is in denial of the fact that their driving has become questionable or downright dangerous. And dementia poses yet another serious challenge. And many times the older person is in denial of any changes in their abilities and to recognize their own impairment. Catherine has stated to me, that her dad feels he is a safe and competent driver and doesn’t need to stop his driving.

Catherine has had many conversations with her dad about stopping driving and he continually convinces her is more than capable, and recently passed his driving test. She can’t believe he did pass, but he did. Her father, like many people in that age group, is proud and very independent. He still mows his lawn, grocery shops, was going to the senior center pre-covid, and his weekly outing to church. He drives within an 8 mile radius of his home and often stops driving before dark.

However, his accident happened at 9 pm, in the Walgreen’s parking lot and he couldn’t remember his name or address. This is a new development.  Catherine’s dad declined any medical assistance and wanted to go home. She took him home and is staying the night with him. I encouraged her to take him to his primary doctor as soon as she can, as maybe there was a physical incident causing him to forget. He could have had a small stroke, cardiac issues, etc. She is planning on doing that if he “allows” it. Catherine’s dad is an amazing man, just a little stubborn.

Catherine needs backup. Seniors rarely agree with their family members ‘concerns and advice, so having someone else discuss driving with them and/or claim responsibility for taking away the privilege might be the best way resolve the issue.

I told her to consider the following resources when navigating this very delicate subject:

• Compared to a family member’s advice, seniors usually hold their physician’s opinions in higher regard when it comes to difficult topics like driving. Since she is going to take her dad to the doctor, it is a perfect time to have this conversation. Their doctor may be able to provide additional information regarding their physical and mental fitness and assess whether they pose a risk to themselves and others by getting behind the wheel. Furthermore, the physician may agree to write a medical status report, which you can present to your State Department of Motor Vehicles. Mandatory reporting does vary state to state, so check your local DMV. This is often a gray area for physicians when it comes to doing no harm to a patient, maintaining confidentiality and following their state’s reporting rules.

• Of course, decent eyesight is vital for safe driving. If your loved one’s poor vision is a factor in why they believe they should give up their car keys, then a similar appointment with their eye doctor may help provide solid evidence as to why it is unsafe for them to continue to drive.

• If talking with your loved one, and going to the doctors is unsuccessful, it may be time to approach the DMV directly. You can with sufficient reason can report an unsafe driver and the DMV will investigate their driving record and abilities. They may have to go through a complete driving test (visual, written and road test) with the inspector. Any action or decision regarding the status of their license is determined by these inspectors. Keep in mind that some states maintain the anonymity of the person who made the request for evaluation, while others can share this information with the driver in question if he or she asks for it. Look through your DMV website for specifics on your state.

• Maybe, it comes down to just taking the keys away. This obviously can cause conflict. Even though you may have a solid reason(s) for preventing them from driving, unless you have proper documentation, such as financial POA, hiding or selling a loves ones car without their permission can fall into a legal gray area. A good solution is to offer to “hold” your loved one’s keys for safe keeping, especially if their license has been officially taken away.

This is not easy, and very few people want to give up the keys. A car provides freedom, independence and “doesn’t want to bother anyone”, when the safety of your loved one or others a solution needs to happen. 

I know my friend is not alone in this difficult time in her relationship with her dad. They have always been close and she has been her dad’s biggest cheerleader and has always encouraged him to do for himself as long as possible.  I hope to hear from her this weekend, after the doctor’s visit and some serious discussions. Catherine’s dad was very lucky this time next time may not be as lucky so action is required immediately.

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July 27, 2020

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network



The Importance of Walking

It’s interesting when, in conversations, I am talking in terms of Pre and Post Pandemic - who would ever thought we would be talking like that. It’s surreal and odd, but many if not, all of us  changed our lives  in so many ways. Some of us worked remotely from home, some of us lost or was furloughed from our jobs and many of us became teachers as a side gig. Here we are in July and sadly the virus is still alive and kicking and in some states has become permanent residents. One thing I did pre/post was to take a daily walk. I try to walk outside but also belong to my local YMCA and would hit the treadmill on bad weather days.



But my walks have taken a new meaning since March. I usually walk in the morning very early but some days when I get home from work, I am not working remotely and I go into my office on a daily basis. I often get out of my office during lunch time and walk around this beautiful neighborhood I work in, it’s a great perk.

In the morning my walks are just me and my music, one thing that has been a constant in my life. My music library has almost 5,000 songs and I just lose myself in my music and sometimes I find myself singing along, or becoming emotional as songs can bring up feelings that trigger something. I have also gotten to “know” the same group of people on these 5:15am walks and when I don’t see them I wonder are they okay, did they go away, seeing some of the same faces on a daily basis have been a good thing for me.



My evening walks are altogether different. I rarely walk alone, they are with my son, or my sister and her dog, Leo or I am on the phone connecting with friends, family but whoever I am with, my 3-4 mile walk goes by fast and I feel so good after. But two things I have noticed that have made a difference in my walk is my brain. Walks boosts blood flow to the brain, decreases stress hormones and releases endorphins improving mood, lowering depression and reduces the risk of cognitive decline.



We all could use that, and pre-Covid I would never consider myself depressed and my stress has always been manageable but Covid-19 has taken all of us to a new level and I didn’t want to become depressed or more stressed that I had already began to feel. Walking with music, with people, alone in our thoughts only improves your overall being and during this time, my walks have really put a new perspective of my life while I am walking.  



I am more aware of the sounds, smells and there are so many more people out, walking/running, biking, and visiting with neighbors on the driveway with social distancing and masks, I am seeing things in my neighborhood I had not noticed before.



Another perk to my walks have been my joints. I suffer from some severe pain and arthritis. I have noticed this increased movement have helped my joints, specifically my hips, I have felt less pain, taken less Tylenol and don’t feel as stiff when I wake up in the morning.



I know exercise is a good thing and I have done some form of it, but the past 4 months I have done it more consistently than ever before, I have definitely appreciated it more and my surroundings on the walk and lastly I have felt a sense of calm and peace which has helped me in my job, my life and overall wellness.

It doesn’t matter how far you run/walk/bike, or how if you go 10 or 30 minutes, or if you walk around the block it is movement, it is breathing, it makes you feel alive and hopefully make you think more clear and sharp and have less chance of some cognitive issues. It is good for the soul, and everyone should do at least one thing that is good for your soul.



So I challenge you, do one thing each day that is good for you, makes you happy, gives you some peace and comfort to your life.



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July 10, 2020

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

Tips for Seniors Coping With Isolation

Imagine that you’re 78, and recently moved from your hometown on the East Coast half-way across the country, to be close to your adult children and grandchildren. You have never lived anywhere else besides the state of  Rhode Island. While you’re happy about the move and increased support from living near family, you also find the new living situation a bit lonely, without the longstanding circle of lifelong friends back in your hometown. This just happened to my Aunt and she called me for some advice, direction and maybe just an ear to bend. This like so much in our world, so much uncertainty.

My aunt told me, my cousin is worried about her not adjusting well and suggests looking into a nearby senior center. There you can participate in daily programming and meet new people, and you’re impressed by how many activities they offer daily. But the thought of walking into a senior center makes her anxious because you won’t know anyone there. My aunt feels “rusty” at friendship skills and believe she might be “too old” to make new friends after all.

Many older adults have felt this way at one time or another. It’s hard to say goodbye to a comfortable circle of lifelong friends and try to make brand new friendships in your golden years.

In my many years working, I have met many older adults in the course of my work who feel lonely and isolated. They would love to make a new friend or two but don’t know what to do or where to start. Many of them haven’t made new friends since their children were in grade school and feel that it’s been too long since they had to “put themselves out there.” But research studies have repeatedly shown that having friends and active social life is essential to older adults’ physical and mental health.

Many seniors and many of us feel overwhelmed by the idea of trying to make new friends, but if you start small and take one step at a time, you’ll have a new friend or two in no time. Below is a list of 4 helpful tips for making new friends over 65:

1. Be a joiner.

The best way to make new friends is to join groups, clubs, or activities where you will find others who share your interests and values. Many seniors like to start with religious congregations. Joining your church or synagogue can connect you with others who share your beliefs and provide you with older adult groups to join, as well as senior programming.

Also, look into your local senior center. Most cities and towns have senior centers, so check out a few in your area to get a sense of the programming and events that they offer. Most senior centers offer an impressive array of daily programming, interesting speakers and events, art and fitness classes, free or reduced-cost lunch, and special trips to area attractions.

2. Use the Internet to find your people.

Making new friends online is a very 2020 way to meet people and make connections. Have an Internet-savvy family member (like your 15-year-old grandson) show you how to create a free account on meetup.com, and find special interest groups to join through there. Meetup.com has real-life interest groups in your local area for every hobby and interest imaginable, so it’s a great way to meet others who you’ll have something in common with.

If you’re homebound or have limited mobility to get out and about, consider joining an online discussion forum or Facebook. Besides being a great way to stay connected with old friends and family, Facebook also has several interest groups and support groups you can join, on every topic you can imagine. Through these groups, you can connect with other members and participate in discussions.

3. Know how to manage loneliness.

Everyone feels lonely from time to time. You can feel alone when you crave interpersonal contact or conversation, but can’t get it for whatever reason. When you feel lonely one of the best things to do is to get out of the house and go to places where there are lots of people and activity: the grocery store, shopping mall, bookstore, community park, gym, etc.



Just being around people, even if you’re not interacting specifically with anyone, can make you feel less lonely and more connected. The change of scenery from your own house or apartment also helps too. Other ways to feel less lonely if you don’t have any friends is to keep in touch with the friends and family you do have—a simple phone call to say hello or an email to check-in can help you feel more connected.

4. To have a friend, you have to be a friend.

When you’re just starting to get to know someone, it’s important to show them that you can be a good friend. One way to do this is to be a good listener, ask lots of questions, and get to know the other person.

Talk less and listen more, especially in the early stages of friendship. Also, think about how you can be helpful to the other person, and show up for them when they need you. Bringing a friend a meal after they’ve had surgery, asking about their travels after they’ve been away on vacation, or driving a friend to a doctor’s appointment are all ways you can show a new friend that you care. My aunt struggles with this, she likes to be the center of attention, and she likes to share all about her. When giving this suggestion to her, I wanted to make sure I said it kindly and non-judgmental, but she needed to hear it.

My aunt promised me to try and reach out to making new friends. It is not easy and I am proud of her to even want to “put herself out there” but she has always been a social and active person, and again for your mental and physical health it is good for you. It may not happen overnight but like anything in life, good things come with time and effort. I applaud her for making the move across the country and starting over, and it’s never too late to do that.

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June, 24, 2020

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

Some thoughts on our new "normal"

So here we are, almost 3 months of our new way a life, Covid-19. I have been working on keeping my loved ones, my staff, clients and myself as healthy as possible. Whether it is washing my hands, wearing a masks or social distancing we are doing what we can. However, that doesn’t mean it is not hard, it is.

Not hugging your family, enjoying a birthday celebration, or for many people I know not being able to be with the infant who was just born. Is this the new reality, or is it a bump in the road, till a vaccine or treatment is developed? When this will happen, some say 18 months, others say at the end of the year, we don’t know. We have been scared, frustrated and at times, very overwhelmed with the entire process of this pandemic.

But as most things in life, I like to look at the positives of any situation that overwhelms me, or what can I learn from this. Is there any? Over 100,000 people have died, unemployment is at the highest since the depression, and the economic devastation is unbelievable. Hard to find any shiny nuggets in this, but I have and decided to continually work on finding the silver lining.

For one, I have a new respect for my health. I have worked hard to get in decent shape but not where I want to be, I am more motivated (most days) to get in better health, not only physically but mentally as well. Mediation and walking have been my go-to and I can’t imagine not doing both of those activities. I have two underlying conditions that they say makes me at more risk, for the virus, so that scares me. I will continue to work on this, and strive for better health. Have you been taking better care of yourself, or binge watching TV and eating ice cream? No judgement as we need to do what makes us be able to forge through each day!

I have also worked very hard to reach out to people, and to check on people I love. I couldn’t imagine not having someone care about you, or check up on you. I have done this, and each day I make sure someone (most days a few people) I check on their health, mental health, do they need anything and their overall well-being. Now is the time to connect, even if we are 6 feet apart. Zoom calls, face time, and the list goes on is now how we visit now. Birthday/graduation parades instead of parties happen each day. But whatever you use, make sure you are reaching out to people, stay connected! There is no shame in reaching out.

I have learned I can so do without going to the grocery store every time I think I need something. I now go, once a week and go with a list and follow the signs with the one-way aisles, use one door in and one out, and wear a mask. I have learned I don’t need new shoes for spring, or I can cook better than I thought and learned some new menus along the way. There is a learning opportunity in most times of uncertainty. I have also learned how much we may have taken for granted, like hugging our mother or family? Or how fun it was to have my monthly breakfast with my childhood friends? That I miss so very much.

Yes, Covid-19 will change the ways we do things, the way we travel, the way we interact with others! But, as I always say, change is constant. I am hopeful for a vaccine and maybe a treatment. I am hopeful we will be more kind and empathic to those who are having a rough time during the quarantine. I am thankful for the people in my life that have remained healthy and thankful to those who had/has Covid-19 who are on the mend. I am grateful for the heroes, our medical staff, the first responders, the grocery store workers, and on and on. Our heroes who don’t wear capes, I salute you.

I am sad for the deaths, the sickness, and the shortage for PPE, the economic hardships, the loss of jobs, and for the seniors graduating high-school and college; it’s been some tough life lessons. But we are a resilient world and as we have heard it so many times these past months “we are all in this together”.

So as we go into summer, without the usual summer festivities and experiences, start new summer traditions, and find something that gives you joy in this very difficult time. Stay as healthy and safe as possible.

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June 11, 2020

Written by Laura-Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

Practical Tips for staying Independent

Wisdom – perspective - time to do the things you enjoy – these are just a few of the things gained with age. However, with aging also come challenges. As we get older, we may have more difficulty performing tasks that were previously done with ease. We may find the day-to-day activities, more challenging, and that can be frustrating. It is important to understand that you do have options. While not every older adult is able to live completely independently, there are things that you can do to help support self-sufficiency, and maintain your independence now and in the future.

Identify Challenges: Whether it’s out of embarrassment or concern, older adults sometimes hide the challenges they are facing from others, which can lead to stress and result in problems down the road. Identifying changes in abilities and accepting them is the first step to developing effective coping strategies. Make a list of the tasks that have become more challenging and focus on the most difficult. Hiding the issue only compounds the problem. Identifying challenges can help you access the resources you require and gain a sense of control. Be sure to address your concerns with your physician, and don’t let fear prevent you from seeking the care you need.

Explore Solutions: Being empowered in the decision-making process is an essential component to maintaining your independence. After you have acknowledged the areas where you need assistance, pool your resources to identify solutions. Is there services that can assist you in better addressing your challenges? If driving has become more difficult, ask family and friends to set up a ride schedule or take advantage of public transportation and ride-sharing. If showering is becoming a challenge, consider purchasing a shower chair or installing an additional grab bar. Let us help you, we can explore solutions together.

Invest in Yourself: Physical activity, proper nutrition and mental stimulation are not only vital for good health, but they help you feel better inside and out! While you’re at it, be sure to make time to nurture your hobbies, or take up new ones. Making an investment in your health and well-being now, will help you maintain your functional independence as long as possible.

Create a Safe Home Environment: You’ve probably heard the phrase “a stitch in time saves nine.” Taking a proactive approach with home safety can help prevent slips and falls, that can lead to injury and further mobility challenges. So, be sure to keep your home hazard free by removing throw rugs and securing lose electrical wires and other trip hazards. Organizing and labeling your personal items also creates an environment where you can remain comfortable and independent longer.

Make Time for Socializing: Independence doesn’t mean isolation. On the contrary, maintaining strong social relationships can provide us with the network we need to maintain an independent lifestyle. Whether it’s a weekly call with family, lunch with your neighbor, activities at your local senior center, or game night with friends, make social time a part of your daily routine.

Ask for Help: Asking for assistance when you are striving for independence may be counterintuitive, but it is important to heed the signs  and recognize that everyone faces challenges throughout their life. There is no shame in asking for the assistance you need. In fact, utilizing supportive resources may help you maintain your independence longer, and that is everyone’s goal.

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May 28, 2020

Written by Laura Shaw-deBruin, Executive Director, Norwood Seniors Network

“Grandma: I’m in the hospital, sick, please wire money right away.” “Grandpa: I’m stuck overseas, please send money.” Grandparent scams can take a new twist – and a new sense of urgency – in these days of Coronavirus.

Here’s what to keep in mind:

In grandparent scams, scammers pose as panicked grandchildren in trouble, calling or sending messages urging you to wire money immediately. They’ll say they need cash to help with an emergency – like paying a hospital bill or needing to leave a foreign country. They pull at your heartstrings so they can trick you into sending money before you realize it’s a scam. In these days of Coronavirus concerns, their lies can be particularly compelling. But we all need to save our money for the real family emergencies.

So, how can we avoid grandparent scams or family emergency scams? If someone calls or sends a message claiming to be a grandchild, other family member or friend desperate for money:

• Resist the urge to act immediately – no matter how dramatic the story is.

• Verify the caller’s identity. Ask questions that a stranger couldn’t possibly answer. Call a phone number for your family member or friend that you know to be genuine. Check the story out with someone else in your family or circle of friends, even if you’ve been told to keep it a secret. Have a secret word so you really know it’s the grandchildren.

• Don’t send cash, gift cards, money transfers – once the scammer gets the money, it’s gone!

And if you get a scam call, report it to the FTC at www.ftc.gov/complaint.

Please reach out to us, at any time if we can be of assistance.

Stay safe and keep healthy!

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